I need advice, my husband is emotionally violent to me and I can’t deal with his control/abuse anymore.
We’ve been together for almost 8 years, almost 6 married.
I tried so many times to talk with him, in a nice way, an angry way, like talking to a child, everything but it didn’t work.
I asked for couple therapy, he refused.
Therapy for him alone, he refused.
I went to therapy (ptsd) for one year in 2022 that’s when I was finally able to establish some boundaries.
I knew something bad was going on from the beginning but I wasn’t able to point out what exactly.
Well, turned out he’s exactly the same as my mom, that’s why I was attracted to him.
Went to the family court and lawyer to get a consultation. I’m scared of making a big mistake like leaving him because I don’t have any family or close friends in Japan.
My coworkers are nice, but I can’t really rely on them either.
I can’t continue living in fear though because I started to get physically sick as well.
I don’t want to go back to my home country because of the issue with my mom and family.
I have PR and my own bank account/ savings. No house, no kids. It’s just the fear so I would be very glad if some of you could offer advice or support , maybe some stories with a good ending.
Thank you 🙏🏼
by HamtaroChan94