I’ve seen this exact scenario on Japan adjacent spaces too many times. Foreign OP spouse in Japan says that their spouse has screwed them over, gets a buttload of sympathy, but it turns out that is not all to the story and OP is hiding key information that doesn’t support their “woe is me” schtick. I’m over the assumption that the spouse of the OP is always some money grubbing evil person who randomly just behaved irrationally out of nowhere, especially when they aren’t around to give their side.
Most recently, a post (https://www.reddit.com/r/Tokyo/comments/1855csd/wife_ran_away_with_money/ ) had a man insisting his wife ran off with his friend and had stolen his money. Some people read that post and jumped to give legal advice. Others actually read between the lines of the post and noticed OP’s fishy story. There was a lot of inconsistencies and weird points in the post, but what stood out most was his wife had abandoned her stuff and quickly fled to a woman’s shelter, which for some reason people glazed over for a convenient “harlot stole money” story. OP backtracked to say he only assumed his wife went to a woman’s shelter – why would a woman’s shelter be the first place he’d assumed she go? You need evidence of abuse to get into those.
And then he quickly deleted the post after people actually started to properly scrutinize his story.
In short, there was so much in OP’s comments that pointed to him being a bad actor not telling even most of the story. The divorce sob stories in any Japan adjacent space are rampant, and of course some of them are very valid, others obviously are not in good faith. This was an obvious case of that.
Can we please take a little discretion and more consideration for these kinds of posts? For all you know you’re giving advice to an abusive crypto military nut like OP seemed to be on how to further harass their spouse.
by PoiseyDa
