This makes me extremely happy but I was fighting for my life in Instagram comments against Japanese women against it. It’s so set in stone that somehow man deserve no rights and have no capacity to raise kids that it’s very alarming.
We’ve been talking about it with my wife recently. For the last 3-4 weeks she has been flooded by the anti-groups on instagram/twitters.
All the moms who are “Let’s protect our children from joint custody” by spreading fake news of how it is in other countries. “Yeah in france because of that a 13yo girl sexually abused by her father is forced to see him blablabla”. No way this happens.
Fuck those people, think of the children before thinking about yourself. Need to protect children from abusers? Absolutely.
Don’t prevent children from having a good relationship with both their parents, if you can’t hold your couple that’s on you not on them.
So ridiculous we’re just now getting here.
I recently discovered something weird adjacent to this issue. If you marry someone who has a child/children, you don’t automatically become their stepparent. It requires an extra set of forms.
Supposedly this has lead to a lot of people exploiting this strange quirk in order to claim more benefits as a single parent, despite cohabiting.
In my innocence, I assumed you’d automatically become a step-parent, with the option to opt-out instead of the reverse being the case.
What is strange is that in Japan, only the right wing is in favor of this bill. Almost all the leftists are against it.
This will probably be adhered to about as well as Japan currently adheres to the Hague Convention.
Overdue, haven’t gotten the chance to check the deets yet but this is long overdue.
Hopefully gives an avenue for parents who have been separated from their kids for a long time to re-establish contact.
A surprising number of kids at the schools I work at live in an orphanage, most because of custody issues. Parents get a divorce, mom usually gets custody, but can’t afford to support the kid full time even with alimony or child support – so the kid goes to an orphanage. Hopefully this will help the situation.
I truly hope this is followed through and those that have been fighting to see their kids are successful, but I fear that Japan has a long way to go even after this is passed. I’ve been following Scott’s situation for a while now (in the article below) along with others like Catherine Henderson and the French father who went on a hunger strike and all I can say is that I’ll believe it when I see it.
This is good and bad. It’s good in the sense that a child gets to have both parents but the negative is if this bill gets passed then automatic forced child support is coming next and that’s no good.
Interestingly, Japanese feminists believe that single custody is a part of “women’s right”, even though the idea itself stems from the Japanese tradition that wives stay at home and husbands work outside. They also vaguely believe that the western world is ahead in terms of women’s right, so they tend to show their western (white) boyfriend or husband even more “feminist” attitude that is ultra-conservative from western point of view. Trying to control all of the household money that their gaijin husband singlehandedly earned is a typical example.
Wait. Japanese men couldn’t have custody over their own children before? Jesus Christ. This is so unfair. It’s great that the law is changing.
I mostly see opinions of foreign faters (usually favoring it) and Japanese mothers (usulally agaisnt it). What about foreign mothers and Japanese fathers?
And what if you were never married to begin with ? Asking for a friend.
What is this? [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gnpnQZWC0R8](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gnpnQZWC0R8) Can anybody provide more info? https://www.reddit.com/r/japan/comments/v4pvni/can_anybody_explain_this_thing_i_found/
Les than 20% of Japanese hold valid passports https://www.travelvoice.jp/english/issued-japanese-passports-increased-in-2022-but-valid-passport-holders-decreased
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Finally!
This makes me extremely happy but I was fighting for my life in Instagram comments against Japanese women against it. It’s so set in stone that somehow man deserve no rights and have no capacity to raise kids that it’s very alarming.
We’ve been talking about it with my wife recently. For the last 3-4 weeks she has been flooded by the anti-groups on instagram/twitters.
All the moms who are “Let’s protect our children from joint custody” by spreading fake news of how it is in other countries.
“Yeah in france because of that a 13yo girl sexually abused by her father is forced to see him blablabla”. No way this happens.
Fuck those people, think of the children before thinking about yourself.
Need to protect children from abusers? Absolutely.
Don’t prevent children from having a good relationship with both their parents, if you can’t hold your couple that’s on you not on them.
So ridiculous we’re just now getting here.
I recently discovered something weird adjacent to this issue. If you marry someone who has a child/children, you don’t automatically become their stepparent. It requires an extra set of forms.
Supposedly this has lead to a lot of people exploiting this strange quirk in order to claim more benefits as a single parent, despite cohabiting.
In my innocence, I assumed you’d automatically become a step-parent, with the option to opt-out instead of the reverse being the case.
What is strange is that in Japan, only the right wing is in favor of this bill. Almost all the leftists are against it.
This will probably be adhered to about as well as Japan currently adheres to the Hague Convention.
Overdue, haven’t gotten the chance to check the deets yet but this is long overdue.
Hopefully gives an avenue for parents who have been separated from their kids for a long time to re-establish contact.
A surprising number of kids at the schools I work at live in an orphanage, most because of custody issues. Parents get a divorce, mom usually gets custody, but can’t afford to support the kid full time even with alimony or child support – so the kid goes to an orphanage. Hopefully this will help the situation.
I truly hope this is followed through and those that have been fighting to see their kids are successful, but I fear that Japan has a long way to go even after this is passed. I’ve been following Scott’s situation for a while now (in the article below) along with others like Catherine Henderson and the French father who went on a hunger strike and all I can say is that I’ll believe it when I see it.
Though I do hope to be wrong.
[https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-04-10/japan-set-to-finally-allow-joint-custody-of-children/103658948](https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-04-10/japan-set-to-finally-allow-joint-custody-of-children/103658948)
This is good and bad. It’s good in the sense that a child gets to have both parents but the negative is if this bill gets passed then automatic forced child support is coming next and that’s no good.
Interestingly, Japanese feminists believe that single custody is a part of “women’s right”, even though the idea itself stems from the Japanese tradition that wives stay at home and husbands work outside. They also vaguely believe that the western world is ahead in terms of women’s right, so they tend to show their western (white) boyfriend or husband even more “feminist” attitude that is ultra-conservative from western point of view. Trying to control all of the household money that their gaijin husband singlehandedly earned is a typical example.
Wait. Japanese men couldn’t have custody over their own children before? Jesus Christ. This is so unfair. It’s great that the law is changing.
I mostly see opinions of foreign faters (usually favoring it) and Japanese mothers (usulally agaisnt it). What about foreign mothers and Japanese fathers?
And what if you were never married to begin with ? Asking for a friend.