I am an American service member stationed in Yokosuka. My girlfriend is in Tokyo. she is having suicidal ideation s, and I am absolutely beyond TERRIFIED she will act on them. Are there any resources or anything that can help??
I don’t know her address. She lives in a student dorm in Edogawa ward. would have called for some kind of welfare check if I knew.
Anything would be of help
I apologize, as well as thank all of you in advance for any kind of help. I don’t know what to do. I’m beyond scared right now.
by TerraElaya
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Commenting for algorithm. I hope she gets the help she needs.
Please check on Google too if you haven’t yet.
Do you know what school she goes to? Can you not contact the school and let them know what’s going on?
Does she speak English? Have her call tell. https://telljp.com
can take ya there if you need
Does she has friends? Anyone besides you to talk to her?
Without a lot of her information it’s hard to say for sure. Best you could do is call the police but you don’t know where she lives so you’re just going to have to be supportive
For medical emergencies in Japan, dial: 119
First, if you know her university name you might be able to locate which dorm by Google. The office staff likely won’t be in until tomorrow morning. However, typically universities do keep overnight security staff on the campus. They should have rosters of the dorms. If you have trouble with Japanese, get someone who is fluent and start calling her university. Talk to security and let them know what’s going on.
I’m writing this in the event it cannot wait until morning.
You could call the police or helplines for stress and suicide prevention, I think someone posted but I’ll try and find it too
However, I don’t know much about the background, but I hope you’re really sure about what shecs saying or how she feels, from my own experience I have seen Japanese people who just casually do self-harm talk or say suicidal stuff… Just a personality trait, maybe they find it cool or something
Or if there is genuinely something wrong… You should try to find the root of her problems and try to protect her from whatever is making her feel such way
Good luck and blessings to you! Hope it gets resolved 🙏🏻
Do you know which college she is in? Is it Sophia university or musashino university? If we can nail it down, we might be able to call someone on campus.
Go to her.
If she’s your girlfriend you know where she is.
Otherwise push her to call a lifeline.
If you have reason to believe she may act on these suicidal impulses, you should immediately call the police and ask for a welfare check on her address. Telephone any friends of hers that you know too, and ask them if they can go and be with her while you’re unable. It’s important she isn’t left alone while having such thoughts.
**UPDATE**
Thank you all so so much for your comments and support. I contacted a few of her friends after I made the thread, and they went to her dorm and confirmed she is ok, and they’re staying with her for now.
I’m unable to go to Tokyo myself tonight due to being on duty section. I’m US Navy, and iykyk, I am unable to leave my ship until at least 0700 in the morning.
Fuck my actual shift tomorrow, I’m driving to Tokyo as soon as I can to chill with her and make sure she’s ok. I e noted down all the resources you guys have posted, as well as the ones I was able to find on Google to make sure she gets the help she needs.
Again, thank all of you. Special thank you to the guy who offered to drive me tonight.
How do you not know her address??
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OP, before you abandon your shift remember you’ve done great already by getting her friends to go to her. That was fantastic and she’ll appreciate it. If she loves you in return she’d want you to turn up to your shift today and not screw up in your job to go see her. Why not call her in your lunch break if you can or do a video chat after work? The impulsive decision is not always the right decision. Go see her when you’re free and it’s better for everyone.
You need to talk to your chief. Don’t do anything until you can talk to them. I know it’s a scary situation, but don’t do anything rash. Tokyo’s less than an hour away, and it now sounds like there’s people there to help her. Doing something that will get you sent to mast will not help her.
Not to be a dick or down play the situation… But this is pretty common with Japanese women… It’s purely for attention and they are unlikely to actually harm themselves.. my ex used to do it all the time..after breaking up and having a civil adult Convo months later she even said, “you really think I’d do that? Im not that much stupid”
If possible she needs to be on 24-48 watch if you of know of people you can trust (which I know can be difficult). She probably needs to talk to someone about what’s going on…
Does she take any medications? Or has she been diagnosed with any sort of illness or DSM #? If not, that’s okay. It just may make it easier to know what you might be dealing with.
Suicidal ideations can last a long time and they can go quickly depending on the person or situation. Everything in the room where they are staying needs to be taken off the premises. Especially bed sheets, knifes, sharp objects, and other things you see. Def wanna come away from windows and find a first floor to stay at, or no windows.
My wife and I worked in the mental health department for many years and have some experience with these things.
If you still are having problems and you need people on the ground please let us know.
We do not take a person’s life hanging in the balance lightly. We will be praying for you. 🙏
Hey I don’t know her financial situation, but once she’s in a safe spot and needs therapy, I recommend Bonds Counseling. They do online therapy if she doesn’t wanna go to their office all the time. They’re located somewhere in Tokyo and have English speaking therapists. I hope she’s safe!