Long story but I will try to shorten it here. I made a mistake within a small community and was ostrasized. Someone who didn’t know what happened is very kind and went out of their way to offer something to me for free. It’s something that takes a large amount of effort.
I want to be open with them and tell them what happened so they’re not associated with me and also ostrasized (might that happen?). But is it too much to tell them everything that happened? We are strangers to each other.
Alternatively, I want to politely refuse their offer but I don’t know how to do it in a way that won’t be seen as rude or ungrateful. I’m very grateful. And also very guilty and have already done as many apologies to anyone who was willing to listen.
Thank you to anyone reading this.
Edit: Before it’s said, I didn’t know what I was doing was wrong but the community doesn’t care about that.
Update: The refusal went well and the person had an idea that something had happened so they were kind from the get go.
by Agile_Excitement_471