Are there any apps more marketed to HUs?
I recently moved here from another part of Japan and frankly looking for some NSA fun. I’m just not in the place where I am looking for a girlfriend.
Of course tinder and Bumble are obvious choices, but 95% of the girls say something like ヤリモク❌ or something along those lines.
Is there a better way to go about it? Nampa in the streets is really not my style.
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They have lots of pay for places for this kinda of stuff but In Japan it’s like everywhere else not many girls are looking online for FWB lol if you are super hot maybe you can get lucky but if you are not having luck on apps go to a bar or date someone lol
In a country with a massive adult services industry I’m not sure why anyone would want to spend all that time and energy on apps to hook up. You can just take all that money you’re going to be spending on drinks and clubs etc and just go to a soap.
I would say if you are attractive or have a really good personality you could try traditional nampa with success.
Based on previous experience the ones that say no to ヤリモクin there profile were the freakiest ones. Just remember if ya get to date three, you can do pretty much anything ya want. My go to was this nice restaurant close to my place then over to my place afterwards. Good luck OP!
The sex scene is indeed booming here, and foreigners are mostly excluded, that is all true. But, if you have the patience, language skills and a fair amount of good luck, you may find some eager LOCAL playmates on either of the following sites… http://b.ibbs.info/swapkanto/ (if you are not in Kanto, just click on your area from within that page) a simple and anonymous old school bulletin board which shows couples and singles by Prefecture, and also Nan Net… https://id.nan-net.jp/system/s-login/loginform.cgi which requires signing up, but you can post a profile and (mosaic-ed) pictures as well. I’m in Touhoku, notoriously more closed off to foreigners in many ways, but I’ve had some success with both around these parts myself.
The bbs and Nan Net above are geared towards swapping, swinging, threesomes of all flavors, etc, but there is a good amount of singles on Nan Net, however a good portion of them are married but playing alone.
There is also Adult Friend Finder, FetLife, Feeld, for a more international crowd, but they are hit or miss depending on your location and your kinks.
Don’t ever pay for any local dating apps, or those that charge by the message sent, especially your intention is just HU or FWB. (example Jメール）
One thing I recently learned was what オフパコ meant…オフライン パコパコ。for years I skipped over the profiles that had that, because I don’t know what it meant. SadLOL!! It means, offline pakopako, offline meaning meeting in real life and pakopako being the onomatopoetic sound of two bodies squishing together during sexual congress! Ha!
The second biggest thing in all of this is location location location! The first is your personality.
Good luck!
Dude every girl I’ve hooked up with from bumble and tinder had the “no hook ups” thing in their bio
OKCupid gets an honorable mention because they have options for non-monogomy and hook-ups, etc. You can list your own preferences and narrow searches by those parameters too.
There is some underground web site you can sue OP.
I will message you directly
Half of the girls I hook up with have something like “no hook up” on their profiles.
And many, who are not interested in sex on the first date or seem more serious, will change their mind if you are nice to them. As soon as they are into you after 2 or 3 fun dates and you say “oh, I’m not looking for anything serious and I don’t want to mislead you” they change their minds and say they are ok with a no strings attached thing at that moment in their lives.
Just use any of the tons of dating apps available. You can find those types of relationships on any of them.
As has been said Tinder and Bumble, although I think Bumble is probably a little better in Japan than Tinder. Yeah, 95% of the girls say ヤリモク❌ but they all say that even if they don’t mean it. I think there’s some kind of profile template out there that most of them use.
I’ve had some success using the standard dating apps as well, like Pairs. Most of the girls there are looking for something serious, but if you match and meet up, you can explain that you are looking for companionship but not wanting to be 100% serious for whatever your reasons. From there the girl can kinda take it or leave it – if she takes it, a lot of the time she will be willing to play around with you while looking for someone more serious. Sometimes though she’ll take it thinking she can change you, so you gotta be careful with those.
I’m saving this post for a friend … 🙄