Im a foreign male, long time married to a Japanese female in Japan. Was shocked recently to find out she’s considering a divorce in the future. Shock has been turning to terror.
No matter what happens, she will be secure for life and beyond that due to factors like wealthy family. Things for me on the other hand are very precarious, with no support, especially at our age.
For years I’ve trusted her with all of our finances, co-running our business, taxes, translations, etc. We don’t make a lot. On paper, she’s juggled it so she’s making slightly more than me. Teenage kids still living at home.
She’s suddenly planning to shut out business soon, move away, kick me out of the house, and take most of our small savings.
To make matters worse, after speaking with a local lawyer briefly, it’s likely she will be able to take most of our assets, including our home, and I’ll be left near destitute and homeless.
Are there any ways that whatever income I can get I can save and guarantee to have it in my name, not stolen from me, and secure myself better for retirement? Saving my money in a foreign bank account?
I’m getting depressed and panicking, thinking the system is stacked against foreign husbands here!
So there’s no point to work hard and save money now because she can just steal it all later at any time? Whereas her savings, inherited property (that I spent all my savings and years to upgrade), etc. are locked in for life?
All she needs is an average lawyer, a system biased against foreign husbands, and ill intent?
I’ve trusted her with all the money and our business and bookkeeping.
I might do something crazy
Any helpful advice greatly appreciated
Thank you
by Emotional_Design4434