My girlfriend is pregnant

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2. There is a Mongolian proverb that says “If you are too afraid don’t do it, if you are doing it don’t be afraid”.
   If you are hesitating think about it, don’t end up as a shitty father who resents his kid and mother.
   Maybe not be a dad.
   If you are really gonna do it buckle up and don’t look back, head on with all you got. After all only you can make decision.

3. Ummm. Well you’d f’d…
   Don’t take this the wrong way but are seems a little off in the head, so be careful.

   I think you need to be straight with her even if it’s difficult to hear.

   Also, are you sure the baby is yours?
   If she insists on keeping it, I’d ask for a paternity test.

4. Why would you date a woman 10 years older than you who has had a child since she was younger than your current age.. I mean, it doesn’t sound like a well-adjusted relationship does it. Sounds like she wanted another one but with blonde hair honestly.

5. Most likely it’s not even yours.

   Seriously, stop dating women twice your age who has a lot of baggage already. Plenty of fishes in the sea.

6. Excellent troll.

7. Unless someone with experience on this replies, I honestly think you should get some professional help/counseling…

   You need to sort your head, and I don’t think this is the correct place for you to seek help, because this is about your life, and it’s really really serious, it’ll change your future forever.

   Try to get professional help.

8. Lucky for you, you’re in Japan! If you don’t want to be a father, don’t worry, you can abandon them to their mother with no repercussions whatsoever, and not only will people not castigate you for your reprehensible behavior, that’s how they designed society and its laws to work! (/s)

9. This is gold.

10. Assuming this is a troll, as nobody could be so stupid in real life. But if true, then just leave her if she refuses to get an abortion.

11. Man up, take responsibility.

12. Oh man. The comments are going to be interesting.

    God speed, OP.

13. Congratulations on 2 kids. Start saving up for their college. One will be going in 6 years

14. Bro… what?

15. “I can’t get pregnant” is an old trick to get pregnant. Life is hard for a single parent. She found someone ten years younger, and now you’re going to have to stay, which is what she wanted. Hopefully you want that too. Anyway, you’re having a kid, and although it was partially her fault for not telling you the truth, you didn’t use protection of any kind, so it’s also partially your fault.

    What’s done is done.

    Of course she’s crying. Nobody wants an abortion. She very likely won’t get one as it was very likely part of her plan to get pregnant.

    Unprotected sex has consequences. You have to face them.

    I think you know the different possiblities here.

    Everyone has different ideas, so telling you my personal thoughts about what is right may not help.

16. Research show that that there is potentially a correlation between sex and pregnancy.

    I know it’s not common knowledge, scientists are lobbying hard together with the Illuminati and the Freemasons to hide that information from the public so I don’t blame you for not knowing that rawdogging a woman in her fertile years could lead to a pregnancy, but now that it happened, you have to take responsibility for it.

    You can try to run away, but you have no idea what she could do to ruin your life if you try to do that.

17. Dude, for future reference, next time you hear “I can’t get pregnant so let’s do it bareback” from a Japanese girl, you need to be donning the full body condom from *The Naked Gun*.

    Serious advice: try to get into couples counseling as soon as possible. You both have a lot to talk through and you should try to do it in a neutral / supportive setting.

18. As always it’s the children who suffer.

19. 3 seconds of pleasure for a lifetime of sleepless nights, vomit and nappy changes! Enjoy mate!

20. I don’t think we really can help here man. This is something between the 2 of you. All we can say is we wish you all the best

21. Yes, you are wrong.

22. Hate to break it to you, but everything that was said/promised/agreed on about not getting pregnant is completely thrown out the window once pregnant.

    Also, asking her why she can’t get pregnant and not giving you a proper answer should have been a red flag.

    If she decides to have the child, you should take responsibility for the new little human that will come into this world (but that doesn’t mean you have to stay with her, as deceiving you was also wrong).

23. Dude. Reddit is gonna rip you apart.
    Everyone! Bring your popcorn!

24. You’re 24 and you’re dating a woman with a 12 year old daughter?

    …I hate to sound rude, but why?
    Do you even get along with the 12 year old? You’re practically older brother age to her

25. I don’t know how the law works in Japan but a quick google into forced abortions showed this.

    Forcing a woman to have an abortion, including a minor, is illegal in all 50 states of the United States of America […] The decision to keep the child is the woman’s alone, so a woman’s rights are being violated when they are coerced, unduly pressured, or forced into an unwanted abortion.

    https://thejusticefoundation.org/cafa/

    You can’t force her to have an abortion just for your convenience. It’s her decision.