As per every Thursday morning—this week’s complaint thread! Time to get anything off your chest that’s been bugging you or pissed you off.
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Rules are simple—you can complain/moan/winge about anything you like, small or big. It can be a personal issue or a general thing, except politics. It’s all about getting it off your chest. Remain civil and be nice to other commenters (even try to help).
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So I was sitting in my living room, nursing my baby. The doorbell rings. I ignore it because its such a nightmare having to cut the nursing session abruptly and rush to the door (since these delivery people barely give you anytime
to stop what you’re doing at a normal pace to get to the door). I don’t mind having to call them later to have them redeliver whatever my husband ordered. Doorbell rings again. I ignore it. Few seconds later, what happens? This delivery person (Sagawa) has the audacity to come up to my window and peek inside my living room, basically seeing me half topless. I freaked out and immediately yelled and waved my arm at her from my sofa (still with my baby attached to me) to go away. She’s just standing there for a few seconds before she disappears. I think great. she got the picture. Thats the end of that. NOPE. a minute later she comes back AGAIN to my window, peeking through. I was livid. My yelling and waving my arm at her to leave wasn’t enough. I had to abruptly stop nursing (Baby started screaming btw) and go answer the fucking door. I didn’t say a word to her, just signed her paper, took the package and slammed the door. I was so pissed off. I don’t care that it was a woman that saw me half naked, I was so pissed off and shaking/sweating from the rage.
We never had an issue with any of our delivery people before. We get deliveries often and every delivery person never walks beyond the doorbell until we open the door and confirm our name. Also worth mentioning that the window is pretty far from the doorbell so she actually walked through my yard.
I was debating whether or not to tell my husband about what happened. Sometimes when I bring up a problem that could involve confrontation, he’s usually just “しょがない“ but surprisingly enough, he actually sided with me and called Sagawa to complain about what the deliverywoman did.
Do you think I went overboard? I don’t. Nursing sessions are very private times to me and my baby. I’m not comfortable nursing in front of anyone except my husband.
edit: typo
I can’t control my cravings for sweets and unhealthy food. Came back from vacation, gained a few kg and now I want to lose it. It’s proving difficult cause I can’t stop eating unhealthy food every day and I’m so disappointed in myself.
The way PTO and special leave is handled by my job. Need to take 30 min off work? That’ll be 1 hour of PTO you need to take. We don’t do minutes. Don’t forget to count your lunch. Work day is 7 hours but if you take 4 hours off in the morning, you better be back at work by 12:15 (lunchtime). So you end up working (being at work) 1 hour more. So 4 hours paid leave, 4 hours work for 1 day.
Oh, yes there’s special leave for pregnant women if you need to go to an appointment or feeling ill. You can take that in increments of minutes or hours.
Oh but it’s not paid. Btw, not only is it not paid, your bonus will be decreased because it’s “special leave”. If you want to keep your same pay and bonus, make sure to use paid leave!
I’m out of PTO until October (not so far now) but it’s annoying. Have a baby on the way and taking a year off work (so not like I plan to use my PTO for vacation next year or anything) but I’m trying to save as much as I can to get off earlier before maternity leave kicks in.
Also why doesn’t immigration have access to people’s gov’t files? Took my last two hours of PTO to go and chase some additional tax documents for my PR application.
OK, actual complaint this week, not just reactions.
kemushi partying on some plants, doing damage I didn’t want done.
damage is the complaint.
preemptive praise? well since they were all round up and made dead by bootheel grind into a paste made of damaged leaves and their carcasses, justice has been served! the garden is safe.
wait, did I just humblebrag? can dead kemushi contribute to a humblebrag?
Not wearing a mask while riding your bike and there’s like two people in a span of three yards: Okay.
Not wearing the mask on your face while taking a sip or gulp of a beverage: Fine.
Wearing a mask, it falls off your giant nose and you don’t rectify it, start eating your fingers. Get called out BY YOUR BOSS to put it on and stop eating your fingers, but five minutes later go straight back to no mask finger time: For fucks sake, how hard is it?
Wearing a paper mask on your chin and constantly pulling it DOWN on the MORNING CROWDED train: Just go home dude.
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I get places outside of Japan are moving away from being masked and we’re transitioning into endemic flu status covid… so things like two weeks paid leave might go away in the near future, and borders will potentially open too. Just seems like we’re heading straight for more trouble.
I’m due for a new iphone, but damn… I’m paid in yen now.
Haha the yen is so weak now and dispatch ALT pay is so shit that I now make less money than my 18 year old sister back home who works part time in a fucking bakery. My other two sisters make about 1.5x and 2x what I make. ETA: that 18 year old sister also did not graduate high school. Lol why did I even go to college?
Why the *fuck* did I ever want to do this? “Golly gosh, I enjoyed learning Japanese so much that I should teach English and share that joy and enjoyment with others learning a language, it’ll be great! 🤩” What a naive little dumbass I was. Fuck I hate this.
School is having end of term tests this week and I’ve been checking all the English ones. My *god* they’re abysmal. I’m being super duper generous with the scores too and they’re *still* almost all terrible. The ones that aren’t terrible are just regular bad. Like holy shit, I get that we (or rather the JTEs and I’ve just given up on trying to insist otherwise) just teach them to copy the English out of the textbook to answer everything instead of thinking of an answer themselves, but ho-ly shit. When they don’t have something to copy their English just devolves into a random mishmash of loosely collected and half remembered vocabulary crammed into whatever canned textbook Eigo phrase they can remember. It just all really drives home how totally Sisyphean this job is.
Living here all through my 20s as a gay man I honestly thought Japans lack of recognition of gay marriage etc. wasnt that big of a deal and didnt effect my life that much.
Now in my mid 30s and thinking about things like how to make sure my partner and I are legally “connected” when it comes to things like buying a house, getting life insurance and making a last will and testament etc. and im realizing how important being able to get a legally recognized marriage actually is.
Probably wishful thinking but my honest hope is that the scandal with the Unification Church which may have been to blame for a lot of the homophobic politicians we will finally see a much needed culture shift.
1 year trying to change career path (to become a web developer). fail after fail after fail, despite the fact I do have a solid 6 months internship under my bell and a PR visa.
Looking for any opening, pat time, full time, contract, not really sure what they are looking for but surely, not an easy goal to achieve, requirements are crazy even for the most entry level job.
Woke up to the news saying that there’s another typhoon coming, and this one doesn’t look like it’s going to conveniently miss my part of the island like the last few did. 🙁
I have a group of friends that I hung out with from time to time for a couple of years before the pandemic. Then Corona hit and my lifestyle changed and we didnt meet in person for a long time.
Now they are asking to meet this weekend for a movie and dinner and I find myself trying to make excuses not to go. Like dont get me wrong there is nothing wrong with this set of guys/girls but since Corona my introverted side got stronger and I find any “set plan” that takes away from the free time I got used to using however I want to be a kind of annoyance. I already have a few other group of friends Im much closer to that I meet once a month or so and an SO I talk to with everyday plus coworkers that Im already filling my quota of social interaction and anything more just causes me more stress than enjoyment.
I dont neccesarily want to cut off contact with these people because they are nice, but Im at the point where im satisfied just joking around on Line and the occasional online game. I feel no need or pressure to meet them in person anymore. Probably this makes me the asshole but its just how I honestly feel, cant deny it. I dont know if there is a nice way to convey this to them without being offensive lol.
At work: Half of the school is sick/absent, and a lot of the remaining kids have bad coughs or runny noses
I’m also sick now with a bad cold. No fever though, so off to work I go. Can it be Friday already please?
Just saw a high school girl who was meandering back and forth while walking forward so badly that I legitimately wondered if she’s either drunk or having a medical emergency of some sort.
I had to help re-format a computer yesterday using our internal software and it ended up basically bricking the computer. (Yay internal software) And in setting up a new computer for the inconvenienced user, their credentials for our internal network were revoked as the old machine was no longer useable/visible/etc. Finally, the PIC of granting credentials for this user was on leave so… time was wasted and any progress we hoped to make was halted.
All of that by itself is a headache but par for the course. Hardware wasn’t dealt with properly prior to working on it, processes aren’t streamlined so mistakes can be made; I get it. Shit happens. Welcome to IT. What’s the flavor of your coffee today? Dark mocha? Daring today, aren’t we? /s
But in the midst of me trying to fix something, the user was insufferable.
Would not stop poking, prodding, reading prompts on the screen, reading MY screen to see if there are updates, asserting there was a separate solution, whining for a new machine insteas of a formatted machine equivalent to her older bricked one despite being told requests were backed up, GETTING the new machine because they wouldn’t stop poking (thanks boss orz) demanding higher ups to renew credentials when it’s not physically possible…
All while not being able to focus on my own work.
I know it’s not a fun and thrilling experience to be dead in the water at work, nor is it comforting when things continue to go south, but for please consider the sanity of the person TRYING to make things right. It’s not fun for me, either!
Seriously, go read a book, get coffee, go on a long walk, leave, hush, fuck off!
Cousin is having a hard time getting out of her caretaking contract. These dispatch companies man. Looks like ALT/Eikaiwa is her next best path. Here’s to hoping she lands a good one.
1. the incredibly slow, heavy laptop I have to use at work. it’s painfully slow, despite apparently being quite expensive (but I have a suspicion that it’s just leftover stock the business sales guys couldn’t sell to an unwitting client). the laptop I have at home that I bought for personal use is probably about the same price, but it gets up and going in like… 10 seconds. I’m lucky if my work laptop is functional after leaving it alone for 5 minutes. I’ve been complaining since the day I got it, but there’s some dumb rule about having to wait minimum 5 years to upgrade.
2. the sightseeing bus-sized school buses that insist on using the windy, sometimes quite narrow roads that some elementary/middle school kids walk along and that I also use to go to work, but they come in the opposite direction. meaning that means sometimes I have to stop and pull over onto the side of the road so they can squeeze past. there is literally a three or four-lane road with wide lanes that runs parallel and is only just slightly out of the way, please use that instead?!
¥2100 for cheerios at Costco? Dang.
Also looking at the breakdown of my tepco bill and despite my per KWh rate hasn’t changed, I’m getting all sorts of extra stuff added onto the hourly kWh rate. So despite using less electricity this month compared to last year, I’m paying like ¥4500 more? Wtf.
Japanese boss handed MULTIPLE shipping slips, with a small paper with the company address in Japanese, to an underling who has been in the country for two months.
He said, “Fill out the address on all of these and write my name.”
Poor woman looked down at the moon runes, distraught, and I think I could sense the birth of a new hatred in her heart.
Dick move.
Finally bit the bullet at signed up for the damned Yodobashi credit card to get a PS5. Few days later it gets announced that there’s a price increase coming. A few days after that I get the actual card and wouldn’t you know it every time I dropped by Yodobashi leading up to that they had some in stock but now they’re sold out absolutely everywhere and Sony ain’t making new deliveries until the price increase/new model drops.
Yen has hit 144 and BOJ is sitting idle. I’m moving out of japan in a couple of months and want to take out my savings.
In terms of cost, tons of working hours amount to nothing due to this yen depreciation.
FML.
Was exploring Hiroshima, just don’t get why people are smiling taking selfies in front of the A Bomb Dome.
I have never had ingrown toe nails growing up. Yet over the past year I started getting one on my left big toe, when I visited back home the nurse I saw there used a local anesthetic and started slicing. The pain went away and I`m back in Japan all happy.
Then the pain started coming back and then the second and third toes started getting ingrown and painful. I saw a doctor here and he sliced all 3 nails half way vertically and did a blood test to rule out diabetes since that runs in my family which came back fine.
Now my big toe on the right foot is starting to get ingrown and has now started to bleed…
Why do my feet hate me now. 0 ingrown toenails my whole life to 4 around the same time. Only thing I can think of is that some of my socks are a few cm shorter than my actual size since 30cm is hard to find here and 27cm seems to be the max usually. Guess I need to hit up online or go to the Nike or Adidas stores 🙁
I usually love Kuroneko Yamato. They have a delivery hub close to my house, their services are great, etc. etc. But with Japan Post not being able to send anything to Germany by plane, I decided to try Kuroneko for a birthday package for my sister.
1. I bring my package to them, they check the contents, check the invoice, everything fine.
2. The next day, I get a call. Their machine wasn’t able to read the address (probably the Ü?) and also writing “decoration” on the invoice isn’t good enough. I go back, “correct” the invoice.
3. One week later, I get a call. There were cosmetics in the package, they need a list of ingredients in Japanese for export. I print out the list and bring it to them.
4. They make me re-write the entire invoice. While I do so, the lady goes through the list of ingredients and tells me that I won’t be able to ship the cosmetics because they contain alcohol. Could I please write another invoice?
5. I ask her to return my money and package.
I totally understand that they have regulations they have to follow. That’s not my complaint. My complaint is that instead of figuring out the problems on the day I brought my package, they had me come back in twice and write three invoices.
I really don’t enjoy using Japan Post, but it’s preferable to *this*.
Not happy with the real estate company for my old apartment. First to set up an appointment they sent me a message asking for me to call them. That rubbed me the wrong way (in the end I didn’t call them so they called me). Now the price of cleaning has been jacked up about 2man and while I concede I’m not the world’s greatest cleaner, they got me on a few things that last time they put down to wear and tear. And at the end of the inspection they said that it wasn’t final and they’d contact me if they found anything else. What the hell was the point of the inspection, then? They’re gonna have a hard time if they try to suck any more out of me.
Shame because this company has been good the other times I’ve used them. Just as well I’m leaving the country before too long and will get to deal with dodgy realtors in my own country.
Inflation
Just saw the news about that poor kid who was left alone to die on the Kindergarten bus and this is a fucking sad way to start my day.
Some people actually seem to not second guess themselves as they pick the middle of a staircase in a crowded station to come to a dead stop and peer down at their phone for moments at a time. Maybe they think they’re on an esculator suddenly ?
Sure, I’ll order coffee at your fancy new coffee place. What’s on the menu? First, let me pull out my mobile phone. Lets find your website. Wait for it to load. Find the menu. Oh, look it wants to install an app… Ok, lets install it. 29MB, ok. Wait for it to download. Open app. Oh, you want to link to LINE? Fine. It wants all the info from me… whatever, lets just do this. Link to LINE. Go back to app. Oh, now it wants my CC/PayPay info? I JUST WANT TO SEE THE FUCKING MENU!
What is it with people barging on trains before letting people get off? Yes, I understand you want to grab a seat, but it ends up taking longer because you’re bumping into people, and it pisses people off.
What’s more, the train starts at my station in the morning, and I can still see how antsy people get despite nobody being on the train and it plenty of space for everyone (must have a corner seat!!!)
I have no history of asthma, but I have been having a difficult time breathing post-COVID.
Yeah yeah yeah, I sHoUlDv’E bEeN mOrE cArEfUl, I’ve heard that one before. You can catch this stupid disease on the train ffs.
Gonna go see my doctor about this, but I feel “disabled” for lack of a better word to describe how I’m feeling.
If you’re able to, get your updated boosters as soon as possible, keep your mask on, and make smarter decisions.
The incompetence of the old dinosaur fossil asshole responsible for that poor 3 year old’s death in Shizuoka, by leaving her locked in the kindergarten bus.
As a father of a young child, I can’t imagine how the parents must be feeling. And what a horrible fate for that poor child, all because that dinosaur fossil lacks any form of common sense to count kids in to kids out. Makes me fucking angry.
Why is there only 2 ways cars indicate here. Come to a complete fucking stop and then turn it on, or turn it on and drive another 500 metres then start breaking. Fucking annoying, and highway merging fucking sucks as well, merge like a zip fuck heads, you don’t go up the on ramp then turn 90degrees over all the white lines to get onto the highway
In June, I was told that I could work flex, but please also come in on weekends and holidays? I get extra pay, so sure, why not. Good for my pregnant self to avoid crowded trains. Then suddenly, yesterday, I was asked if I could come in at 9am again – ___-
It’s my bad that I didn’t get it into writing, but I think I am done with this place.
I am not getting any Ketchup at McD’s. I hate it.
A curse upon anyone who doesn’t clearly label seeded grapes as such.
The new iPhone is so expensive
So many good games with PlayStation plus extra, no time at all . Just download them all.
Pink eye still going on since last weekend. I need to stop rubbing it like an idiot. At least Soft Santear brings some much needed relief.
I went back and visited a city I used to live in and have been feeling really melancholy since coming back to Tokyo. Tokyo has more job opportunities and it’s easier to be single here, so I don’t regret moving. And it was nice to meet people who seemed genuinely happy to see me.
I also brought back an unhealthy crush on my former coworker. And a ton of thoughts and doubts about my future… A laundry list of things I need to accomplish, but seemingly never have time for…