Recently I went on a 8 day trip to Tokyo, but throughout those 8 days I've been shoulder checked 1+ times, 5 out of 8 of those days. It became so frequent that my family began to also retaliate by shoulder checking back the individuals.
However I can't help but blame myself for it, as if I deserved this for being a tourist in Japan. How can I at least mitigate getting shoulder checked next time I come back? For reference I am a Chinese woman, and didn't speak much Japanese so I did communicate in Mandarin to my family.
Should I stop speaking in public, especially in Mandarin? It's usually old people who shove me, especially violently. I just don't want to experience this again, it nearly ruined my trip. I've been told it's because I'm a woman or because I'm Chinese but I'm not sure. Sorry if this is the wrong subreddit I'm really sorry, I didn't mean ill intent. I would prefer genuine advice as opposed to snarky comments.
by hydroism