My sibling and I are going to Japan for about 10 days, 3 days to visit my friend in Sapporo and 6 days in Tokyo. Its their first time but I've been several times and studied abroad.
They're non-binary (born female) and got top surgery and are nervous about going into onsens (no nips, totally flat, scars). Meanwhile I have gotten breast reduction surgery (scars, do have nips, born female). I went to a few onsens after my surgery and it was fine, but I was alone. My sibling is on T with short hair and a deeper voice and they're worried they might get kicked out. I figured they would come with me into the women onsen and it would be fine. They're also worried about public bathrooms and trying on clothes.
Anyone have any tips or warnings? If someone asked (not that I think they would) I'd say we got mastectomies. They're N2 Japanese, I rely on google translate so if anyone has phrases or things to say that would be appreciated.
Additionally, they are super in ropeways and expressed it is the one thing they want to do. They want to go to Hakodate but it looks pretty far from Sapporo. I was thinking of going to Nikko when were in Tokyo. Also any coffee shop recs would be great, thanks!
by Ok-Foundation-1149