I have plenty of friends from my own country but I want to assimilate into the Japanese culture and make Japanese friends so I try to form contacts in parties and talk and meet them on apps like Hellotalk but they seem to ghost me after a few meetings. This happens with both the genders. At first I didn't generalize an entire population as a whole but after living here for a year I noticed some of the things that japanese people I considered friends did to me:
1) Getting very close for like 3-4 months with regular meets and even activities with my other friends and then ghosting me out of the blue.
2) Never inviting for a hangout unless I ask them to or I make a plan but they would post about their hangouts with new people who are foreigners. (Yes, they mention this in the story itself that they made a new foreigner friend).
This made me feel that they don't want to have a deeper friendship with 外国人。 But rather an experience of being friends with them.
by Kaleshi_aurat