So, I’ve gone to my language school for about 9 months. My teachers are very kind however I find the direct method doesn’t seem to be working very well for me and I spend more time trying to figure out what is happening in class instead of learning the grammar. I end up falling behind and stressing out. I previously took a Japanese class back home where the class did go very slow, but there were explanations in English in the textbook which I feel really helped me. I’ve always been more of a textbook learner so usually I leaned on that. However, our textbook is entirely in Japanese with no explanations.
on top of struggling in school I’ve been feeling extremely alone and out of place at my school.
my school is mostly Chinese students that keep to themselves/hang out with other Chinese students outside of class. however, my current class is more western students than usual. However, I’ve been feeling very lonely as far as the other students.
My first terms I did meet people I really hit it off we would go get drinks and go do stuff around Japan. I don’t party or drink a ton, but it was nice to know there was good group I could hang out with. however, everybody went home after six months. This last term has been a really rough as far as people in my class.
I have one older girl who make comments about everything I eat during break every day. I don’t think it was ill intended and an attempt at awkward conversation but just very annoying to where Ive started eating outside of class.
Then there is another guy who is very into a niche form of anime, and talks nonstop about it. I like anime, but not the same type and I don’t make it my entire life. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with talking about stuff you like, but he constantly talks about it to one poor girl in class and then say “oh I’m such a degenerate. I’m so trash” to the point where I wonder if he had a shame kink or some shit.
I started making friends with someone in class, however they started talking about really personal stuff very quickly after knowing me for two weeks and then decided we were best friends. She came here with another friend who had a falling out with and has done nothing but shit talk her even though they supposedly were friends for 10 years which left a very sour taste in my mouth. knowing this is the type of person who will eventually do the same thing to me and is looking for a replacement for the old friend, I’ve made it clear that I don’t really have a ton of time to hang out. Despite this, she has been repeatedly asking to hang out, to waiting for me after class. I’m trying to figure out how to politely shake her off as I don’t think her mental health is the best and I don’t wanna make anyone spiral.
I would be mindful of cultural differences, however, all the people I have mentioned are from west/ Midwest America.
I was wondering if anyone else had any similar experiences or advice. i’ve been having trouble sleeping because I’m so stressed out, and I’m debating going home at this point.
by PuzzledMode291
