Very curious what this is about.
I’m in my 40s, last week went to a casual bar/izakaya on my own. Had some drink and food. Next to me were two JP girls around 21 yo, after a while they started chatting with me. Things lead to another, one left and the other continued chatting, we got closer, started to touch, then she was like want to get laid etc.
Weird thing is the girls didn’t have any bills to pay, I asked the bartender and he was like “oh they don’t need to pay don’t worry”. Paid my own booze. Left, the girl followed outside and wanted some action but frankly the age difference felt too much at that point and I naively thought she was into a relationship, told her to get a taxi and go home.
I went back couple of days later. Just got my own drink, then saw that same girl there again, but this time with a salary man, seemingly dating.
Just wondering what bullet I just dodged. Was it like a scam to rip me off in a rental hotel, or really a student looking for a sugar daddy? Curious what this kind of practice is. The bar was in central Tokyo, not in any particularly dodgy area.
Edit: since I can’t reply to comments, note that they didn’t ask any money and she was quite explicit that she wanted to go to my place (maybe that’s the scam?)
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The bartender telling you that gives me the feeling he has the girls there to entertain the customers. They might be looking for sugar daddies, my divorced dad tells me similar complaints when he hits the bars.
They might have been wanting to take you to another bar where the scam was going to take place.
Bar 1 was the fishing spot, bar 2 is where they gut their catch.
Is prostitution considered a scam?
Probably best not to grope girls who let you grope them in bars.
Sounds like that papakatsu thing. I’ve been seeing an abnormal amount of clearly older men with younger women lately.
Even at the hotel I was staying at temporarily. Lot of old guys showing up with women that didn’t seem to be their daughter.
It’s basically prostitution, but here they call it “papakatsu”.
I am waiting for the comments from some ppl that are not even living here saying:
Omg! Japanese ladies don’t do that! You sick b$&@“rd!
Or
Yeah, you watch too much anime.
Anyway, some other word things have happened to me on trains, I also have not done anything cus I heard some are looking for easy ways to get money, like reporting you to police, etc.
I personally don’t think I will go with a girl unless I know her a bit.
I realize this is a shock to you but women enjoy sex too.
Did you consider that as a human being perhaps she took a liking to you and wanted to engage in some consensual hanky of the panky variety? As for seeing her later perhaps she lives in the area and this is her favorite bar/hangout and since you weren’t interested in helping scratch her itch she was looking for someone who was.
It’s possible the girls simply had a tab at that bar, if they’re regular customers. That might not even be an issue.
My 87-year-old retired friend’s last girlfriend was 33. She spent a year and a half going everywhere with him. Eventually, he got tired of her, and traded her in on a younger model. Literally. A model. I think this one is 24 years old.
I’m 58 and my wife doesn’t drink. So, we’ve never even entered a bar together. Since I’m out drinking alone, I get occasionally hit on by much, much younger women. Sorry ladies; it just feels too weird to think about fucking someone the age my daughter could have been, if we had kids.
Often, young Japanese ladies think that older guys have money; and they get to spend some of it as long as they put out for him. It’s not really love, but its not prostitution either. It’s more of a private agreement.
Perhaps she just wanted to have some fun and couldn’t do it at her place/hotel for being in a relationship, living with her family or smtg.
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