-sama is quite a bit more formal than you’d want when addressing a friend. You can’t go wrong with -san, at worst it would seem a bit too formal if it’s a friend you’re really close with and have known for a long time, but it won’t ever be “wrong”. If you’re older/have some social seniority and the person you’re referring to is male, you could use -kun. If they’re female you could use -chan, but I wouldn’t recommend it as that can sound a bit condescending and even rude in some situations, so you’d have to be sure it’s someone you’re really close with. What to call someone depends a lot on your relationship, so if you’re not really sure -san is a safe bet.
*Edit to add: if it’s your best friend that you’ve known forever and are very very close with, you can drop the honorifics altogether and just use their name. That’s basically limited to very close/childhood friends, spouses, or family members.
If you are close you would likely just use his name.
Sama is way too formal for that especially if you’re close. I’d just say their names or Kun/San for male, San/Chan for female
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-sama is quite a bit more formal than you’d want when addressing a friend. You can’t go wrong with -san, at worst it would seem a bit too formal if it’s a friend you’re really close with and have known for a long time, but it won’t ever be “wrong”. If you’re older/have some social seniority and the person you’re referring to is male, you could use -kun. If they’re female you could use -chan, but I wouldn’t recommend it as that can sound a bit condescending and even rude in some situations, so you’d have to be sure it’s someone you’re really close with. What to call someone depends a lot on your relationship, so if you’re not really sure -san is a safe bet.
*Edit to add: if it’s your best friend that you’ve known forever and are very very close with, you can drop the honorifics altogether and just use their name. That’s basically limited to very close/childhood friends, spouses, or family members.
If you are close you would likely just use his name.
Sama is way too formal for that especially if you’re close. I’d just say their names or Kun/San for male, San/Chan for female