Been here since 2018. I’m 45 and have no friends. Other than work, I spend all of my time alone. I want to do something/go somewhere for Christmas that involves people and/or drinking and conversation,in English. Help a guy out. I don’t hate spending time alone but sometimes, I want to be around people that I don’t work with/around.
Help me out. I live an hour and a half from Tokyo, if that helps.
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In all sincerity, a dating app.
There would be a good number of Japanese women (or men) a similar age to you who would be glad to date and go to illuminations etc around Christmas time with someone.
goto a gaijin bar?
Create a party and go kill Yaldabaoth using Satanael.
Join Salsa lessons right now, and find out when/where the Christmas parties are.
Pro-Tip: Cod liver oil can help smooth out the gyrating hip motions.
Nearly everyone I know I have met through hobbies, pastimes, or volunteer work. Getting out and doing one of these probably won’t help for Christmas this year, but it will for next (or, if it doesn’t help specifically for Christmas, at least will for this time of year).
I hope you don’t mind me asking, but, Why don’t you have friends?
Is it a personal choice? Are you an introvert with no social abilities? (Not meaning it as an insult), what pushes you to live here and make no friends at all?
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Now on the recommendations:
Going to bars usually is a good way to be around people and start conversations.I’m sure there are many parties happening as people are coming back to Japan, so maybe try checking hostels lobbies, and such.
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Hope you find something nice to do!
You a hub typea guy?
An hour and a half from Tokyo? If you’re little more specific you might find some people to hang out with. (I’m in Yokosuka, also about an hour and a half from Tokyo.)
Dating app, grab some chicken from KFC and go to a love hotel to shake the building.
You tried the meetup events?
Often people go there to hook up but there are people who really are just looking to make friends but are too shy to go to a regular bar and talk to strangers. As dorky as it sounds, I remember once playing bingo with a meet up group on New Years Day and it was actually really nice.
Meet up usually has Christmas dinner and events like that
Checkout some of the trips and outings set up by [Tokyo Gaijins.](https://tokyogaijins.com/) That might be a way to get out and do something interesting while meeting people too.
Soap land then Christmas themed love hotel
Just hit up lovean.co.jp.
It’s a Papakatsu site. You can have company of a woman, most of which aren’t professionals, and have a fun time out. Just choose one that doesn’t do sex. They’re more ‘wholesome’, for lack of a better word. Whenever I’m alone on a business trip I hit up that site and there’s always a few people available. I just chat up a few of them to see who meshes with me the best and I take her to dinner and drinks. That’s it. Only a handful of times it led to (unpaid) sex, but that’s not really what I was there for…but I’ll take it.
If you don’t mind staying out for the night, head into Tokyo and go some international bars or clubs. Plenty of those there.
Perhaps expand a little bit on interests / hobbies that you have besides grabbing a drink?
I suspect you might find some folks in this sub who share the same interets that could lead to recommended meetups, invites to hang, etc.