So yes, beforehand, I know cheating is bad.
Alright, so matched with a girl on a dating app, talked for a couple days and planned to get lunch together. Some more serious topics came up and I was talking about how I’d like to get married one of these days.
Her response to that was that she wasn’t looking for something serious. Not wanting to think completely with the wrong brain first, I made sure to clarify whether her definition of “something not serious” was my home country’s way of reading that. She said yes and that she was done with relationships after her husband cheated on her.
Over the last couple days of talking with her though, I’ve started to feel a bit of skepticism and something like “This is almost too easy.” after exchanging some pictures and having nsfw chats so I took a trip to Google and did a bit of searching. I found the “It’s possible to sue someone for having a physical relationship with a married person” thing and now I’m suddenly a bit more skeptical.
Is this a trap of some sort?
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Why would you even consider it in the first place?
one bonus is she is likely taking all comers, good way to get saddled with a erm “social disease” even if you don’t get sued by miffed hubster
Only you can decide if you want to roll the dice or not.
Just make sure you follow the golden rule: keep it wrapped.
What app? Put an homie on 😂😂😂
You have it backwards.
It’s possible to be sued by the husband. If you get caught and he corners you, presents evidence from texts and pics, you might have to pay from ¥500,000 and sign an out of court settlement.
Odds are you’ll be a short term play mate. Have a few fun dates and enjoy the company.
Just fuck her until u find a better one. She will not care anyway. Win win
[https://rikon.vbest.jp/columns/639/](https://rikon.vbest.jp/columns/639/)
Not going to judge, if you want to bang her then bang her. I wouldn’t, though.
Link I put above basically goes through the circumstances in which you could get sued for this sort of thing.
The key thresholds are:
1. You had sex with the married person.
2. You knew the person was married, or were reckless/negligent in thinking they were not married.
It seems you can get out of having to pay anything (if the husband sued you) if:
1. The husband finds out but then doesn’t do anything about it for a while (statute of limitations, if you will). I suppose the idea is that if he found out but did nothing and suddenly decided to sue you like a year later (made up number), the court would wonder “why didn’t you sue him as soon as you found out?
2. You successfully argue (ie prove) you didn’t know she was married and were not negligent/reckless in thinking she wasn’t married.
3. She’s already separated (ie living separately) from her husband, such that the court deems their marriage “destroyed” already.
4. You successfully argue that you thought her marriage was already effectively over (for whatever reason) and that you were not negligent in thinking so.
In this case, it doesn’t sound like the marriage is over (she knows her husband cheated but she’s still with him so… probably wouldn’t fly).
The whole point of the 慰謝料 (compensation) is because the husband would claim you destroyed their marriage. That’s why you have to prove either she wasn’t married, you were not stupid in thinking she wasn’t married, her marriage was already over anyway, or you were not stupid in thinking it was already over.
So yeah… as I said at the top. Just don’t bother. Probably not worth the stress.
It might end up being expensive if her husband decides to sue you. Is a lay from a milf worth it? Maybe ..I dunno.
I’ll DM my story lol
1/. Unlikely to be a trap, the husband probably doesn’t care enough to gather evidence even if he found out. It’s also unlikely to be worth the risk anyway.
2/. If you do decide it’s worth the risk, remember that Japan is the only developed countries where STIs are rising. They managed to break 10,000 new cases for syphilis this year. Vile.
Hit it then quit it OP
Don’t tell them your real name, workplace, or where you live and you’re all good (maybe)
But when you get that itch down there 3-10 days later, that’s a different story
Pretty common here for both men and women (especially men) to cheat when married. I guess this is often true especially in cases where sexual attraction didn’t play a big part in choosing a partner to marry, or when the sex or relationship has gone bad.
/u/kyoto_kinnuku will surely have some good ideas about this.
Kudos for even having the thought “this is almost too easy” instead of smashing it out of the park immediately.
If her husband is cheating on her and she’s cheating on him, you’d better double bag it.
Badger game?
Before I settled down I was seeing a married lady.
She text me one night, talking about sexy things and asking what I enjoyed doing with her the most. It was her husband who had managed to unlock her phone. Next day she text me and I told her and she freaked out (despite saying he didn’t care before). Cue him trying to stalk me outside my apartment and her being a mental bitch.
TLDR – there are plenty of chances to meet women in Japan, steer clear of crazy married ones.