I’m considering filing a report after a student spanked my butt as he left the classroom today. It’s pretty humiliating as I’m a grown man and the student is a 15 year old boy. He’s been a bit of a smart-ass in class over the past few months, but yesterday marked an entirely new level, and I think I’m right to take umbrage with this particular kind of behaviour.
Is it possible to get the student removed from the classroom, at least for a certain period of time, or should I just try and get over it and pretend that it didn’t happen?
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You are more likely to get yourself removed from the classroom if you try.
I would tell their Japanese teacher. I had a similar student giving me hugs (6th grade boy and I’m a man) as a joke at my expense and before I could say anything another male teacher saw him and really chewed the student out for acting like a child and treating a teacher like that.
Talk to their homeroom teacher or your English tantou, or both, if possible.
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http://www.dudesrock.org is the place to report this kind of behaviour
This is showing disrespect. Speak to the JTE and then the home room teacher. Doesn’t matter if he’s 15, he’s done the wrong thing and needs an attitude adjustment. Actions have consequences.
Honestly I think you will be wasting your time. I bet the JTE will just brush it off. Dispatch company will likely give a similar response.
Boys like to touch each other inappropriately all the time here.
Also the students have the right to be in the class and it is incredibly hard to have them removed, often the teacher is changed instead.
If you work for a dispatch company and want to report it, you probably should discuss it with your coordinator directly and let them handle talking to the school, who will talk to the student. He won’t be removed from class though, I can almost guarantee it.
It was juvenile and disrespectful, but practically speaking, no real harm has been done. I think you’ll do better to just ignore it as long as it doesn’t get worse. He’ll be gone in three more months, assuming he’s in junior high now. You are definitely within your rights to raise the issue, but I doubt you’ll improve your standing with everyone by doing so.
tl;dr He won’t be kicked out. Just ignore it.
I think it’s pointless talking it too seriously.
I doubt that things will go in your favour if you make. Big fuss out of it.
If it were me I would just talk to the student outside the classroom and tell that it’s not appropriate and ask them not to do it again.
oooh, I’m a grown man. If this humiliates you wtf are you doing teaching kids?
If you can’t handle kids you shouldn’t have bothered becoming a teacher. Japanese kids will be Japanese kids.
Also love how the correct comments are being downvoted coz everyone’s a fucking sensitive weeb. Not everything is perfect in Japan. Funny how you all downvote anything that’s negative.
I would advice that you talk with the tantou or HRT. Hopefully they are reasonable people who care about children. If so, I believe they will try to talk some sense with the student because that’s just wrong and you shouldn’t tolerate it.
Not sure what it’s called in japanese, have seen it done in anime like Naruto and Shin-chan, but I have had a kid poke me “in” the butt. Very uncomfortable. Would I personally want to ruin the kids life over it, no. But if you honestly feel violated, report it to your supervisor and the JET. You shouldn’t feel uncomfortable at work.
Tough to handle personally if you don’t have the experience/manner/persona.
Talk to JTE or HRT if you have a decent relationship with them.
In my experience this will not be treated as much of a big deal.
Op needs to call this out, as the student needs to learn boundaries.
Op should also expect the student to not leave the class or anything.
I’d just get the T1 onboard and have the “inappropriate conduct” discussion. That’d probably stop it from happening again.
My school is really wild and I’m just desensitized to this kinda stuff. lol. A kid slapping my ass would be mild on any given day to me. I’ve seen kids flashing each other, breaking windows, etc.
You need to just tell the HRT, Head English Teacher, or Head teacher and let them handle it. There’s not much you can really do
The amount of people in these comments who have passed the point of “unfortunately nothing will likely come of it” to the point of convincing themselves that “this behavior is acceptable and that japanese school culture is right for not disciplining such behavior” is depressing
That kind of shit happens. The kids are trying to tease out a reaction from you. If you don’t react, it wont happen. Also, if you make an effort to get to know the kids and show interest in them, they will respect you. When they get used to seeing you around, they will become accustomed to being around a foreigner and they’ll see you differently. Toughen up and earn their respect.
Hit him with a kancho
Only thing to add after speaking to the teacher is that I’m not sure he can be removed from the class as punishment because of laws around right to education.
Some rotten comments here, just how miserable are the native teachers in Japan when they consider themselves worthless and consider it acceptable to be open to abuse from students.
See where he lives and then go to his parents directly. Your company and the school will not do a darn thing
Not quite the same but I taught in a kindergarten, I’m a woman and I literally had children come up and grab my everything. Back, front, boobs. It did bother me, but the Japanese teachers literally laugh and promote this behavior so it’s really hard to do anything about it and it’s easy to see it’s not set as a boundary from early on. I would end up getting on the level of the kid and saying I didn’t like it, and they could high five me instead. Worked alright.
I don’t teach anymore thank god, cause this behavior drives me crazy.
Why even make a thread for this lmao. Obviously you should report this to the HRT, VP, or whoever is the manager if you’re dispatch.
Teenagers are the same all over the world. This is just how they act. You are overreacting. Get over it.
This happened to me one of my first years as an ALT and I…
1) Told my JTE who pretty much ignored me.
2) Didn’t accept that answer, so I immediately reported it to the BoE. They DEFINITELY took it seriously and had several meetings regarding the incident. They even required the kid’s parents as well as the kid in question to come to the school and apologize to me as a group.
The kid hated me after that, but..ok? You’re fifteen. Learn to respect boundaries. The only thing that would have made this incident better is if I would have gone up the proper chain of command.
JTE>home room teacher>principal>BoE
But no regrets.