I hear many people left the dating apps out of frustration but at the same time Bumble seemed to have a better reputation than the other apps.
Personally I left because there almost never were messages from women after matches and I also found out many times that some women didn’t know that they had to message first despite the fact that it’s clearly stated in the app itself.
Lastly, too many people who said they were too busy so they couldn’t meet or people checking the app only very late at night.
Anyway what’s your experience like?
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I rarely matched people in it and never managed to get a date.
I’m considering signing up for Pairs which is a more serious version but does require some Japanese language skills…¥4,800 a month or free for girls.
I wrote a separate post about this a few days ago actually.
Maybe the OP wanted to hear from blokes, but here’s my experience when I used it last year. Saw quite a few profile of men in sexless marriage, looking for some company. Some even wrote the wife is ok with it. Some are there just for ego boost, boredom, curiosity. I once got a match with a guy, who turned out to be someone my female friend was dating for about a month.
Same as anywhere mate. If you’re attractive you’ll get matches. If you speak Japanese, even more matches. If you don’t tick any of those you’ll probably make a Reddit post about it.
I met my wife on tinder, never had a problem with it. Went on 1 or 2 dates a week.
I deleted it as I am seeing someone I matched with on it more seriously, so yeah, positive experience all around. Not too dissimilar to experiences with it in England before I moved out here.
As a woman, most of the matches on any dating apps were trash. Many either stopped responding after the initial hello, or just asked me if I like Japanese shlong and if I wanted to go to a hotel. I swiped on both Japanese and non-Japanese men. A lot of foreign men seem to be either 1) only interested in dating Japanese woman (hence why they came), or 2) while ok dating a non-Japanese woman, are not interested in being in Japan for life. My Japanese is okay-ish (N2), but need a partner who can at least speak -some- English. So dating was a struggle.
I managed to meet my current partner (non-Japanese, also wants to stay in Japan, together over 2 years) on Bumble, but I only found him after a long time of wading through garbage.