I’ll start with a quote from my friend “with Japanese girls you never know bro, they have many secrets”
And I have to say that this has been the truth.
My cases:
1. She had 2 sons and was divorced. My god, she never mentioned until 1 year of relationship, how did she hid it all?
2. After 1 year and a half of chatting and going out, she finally spit the truth, she was being polite but never wanted anything romantic.
She didn’t wanted to say no to me bc “she wasn’t sure about it”
2.1 used to be an idol, maybe she was fcked by the jp idol system.
What about you guys? I am the only one who can’t read the air properly?
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instead of air reading air, I recommend conversations
And I thought my current gf’s complaint to me was a problem. You clearly need to work on communication skills if someone is hiding huge things like that from you.
Lmao communication is a two way street. You clearly picked the easiest girls and never stopped to wonder why they were so responsive to you. This isn’t a “Japanese women” problem it’s a “trashy human” problem.
1. Probably because she was unsure of how you would react. Her unwillingness to share intimate details with you says something about her confidence / degree of trust in you.
2. It’s also on you to clarify boundaries and expectations.
Sometimes it is you, bro.
Yeah, it’s just you
Like 3 of my mate’s wive’s have cheated on them properly. The recurring theme seems to be that eventually they get caught.
Wives needed to be lucky every time, and the husbands just once…
Have to say, the skills of hiding improve after getting caught 1st time (takes about a year) and the subsequent times (4+ years).
Damn that ain’t normal lol
How much of that one year was online and how much was in person?
Wtf the toxicity in this thread!
Over the years I too have dated women who were secretly married/had kids. Much like yours, they weren’t looking for something serious and therefore deemed it to be unimportant information. A lot of people don’t realize that a not insignificant number of “gaijin chaser” women are ones who are married and looking for some side action and/or just not pursuing a serious relationship. Foreign men make for great options, as we’re usually outside of their social circles and we tend to not stay here permanently either.
As for the communication issue as a whole, yeah. People don’t say how they feel, they expect you to just know and respond accordingly. It can be super frustrating. Although I don’t think this is exclusive to the Japanese, it definitely can feel more commonplace here.
Blaming it on nationality is the easy way out.
Only you mate.
I knew guy who had to leave Japan for a while and was definetly coming back after a few months. He decided to propose to his girlfriend on the last day and surprised her with a ring. She accepted but told him that she couldn’t because she was still married to someone else. He said that if she had “confessed” to him anytime up until that point he would have found some way to work out the situation but that was the limit for him.
We talk all the time and we’re pretty open with each other about everything.