Do you have any social gathering you could think of aside from school?
Of course i’m aware of how people here doesn’t like bothering others that much, It has this weird atmosphere….
One thing i despise the most here is how awkward elevator rides are, they don’t talk “too much”
I just wanna talk so i could get out of my mother’s basement! I haven’t had that much conversation since pandemic hit. seriously isolation is tough, not healthy being like that man not talking to anyone for a long period of time
And i guess i can’t blame myself that much for developing social anxiety disorder in this country [Diagnosed]
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There are many hobby gatherings in Japan, too. Board games, poetry, music, and so on.
You’re mom has a basement? In Japan?
If your of age, go to a Western style bar. Pick someone you find interesting and talk to them. If they talk back- now you’re talking. Wash, rinse, repeat . Alcohol helps. Try not to be weird.
Are you going to Uni in Japan?
Join a couple of circles. I literally spent all of my free time playing Smash for the 64 in the 部室 for the 映画研究部
I’m in a sports club. These days that’s where most of my socialization (outside of family and work) comes from. It’s a great way to socialize and improve your Japanese, and you get the added benefit of keeping in shape. Sometimes you get cool bruises to make you look like a tough guy too. Membership fees are dirt cheap (4500 yen every 3 months for my club, with practices 2-3 days per week + extra events like joint training sessions and competitions with other clubs). Due to the nature of the sport I do, in my club we have members from a variety of ages from children all the way up to elderly. If I were younger and had just arrived in Japan knowing everything that I know now, I would have joined a sports club much sooner.
Maybe it’s time to find a sport that interests you.
I’m confused too. Are you a student? I came here as a 27 year old graduate student. I didn’t have much in common with the younger Japanese guys I studied with who were a little too… academic so I went out and made friends closer to my age. Now most of us are married in our thirties and get together for drinks occasionally. Before my kid was born I’d go to a BJJ gym and train three times a week. That was a great crew of to hang with. Put yourself out there and make things happen.
Track down a live show for some kind of music you like. Strike up conversations with people at the bar, or look cool and mysterious and wait for them to talk to you. /s
I live in an area of Kyushu where foreigners are a rare sight. I spend almost all of my time with Japanese people. I go to parties with my husband and his friends. I also joined a local temple and converted to Buddhism after I started living here so I’m often involved in activities there. IDK how your Japanese is but once I reached a point where I could communicate effectively in Japanese it made a big difference in my ability to socialize.
After 2 years I still haven’t been able to make a single friend in or outside of work.
Go to events on meetup.com . If you aren’t too fussed on improving your Japanese then there will be plenty of foreigners who want to hang out. I went to one meet up and we ended up forming a big group and all going out. I met up a few times after, not too fussed on gaijin nights out to the club but if you need a close group of people it’s probably easier to get close to other westerners. You’ll probably end up meeting more open Japanese people through those friends too.
What part of Japan do you live in? That could help in giving advice!