Im at a loss

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2. I want to tell you one thing – it’s not your fault. Stress and fatigue will inhibit your ability to study effectively. I have never studied so well once I got my money problems solved.

   I am not gonna ask what can you do or what your skills are, because if you had anything, you would already have a better job. I know, I used to be in the same situation as you in my 20s. So my suggestion will be the same: find what you could do that people would want to pay you a lot of money.

   Anyway, the gist is you need to get a better job and/or make more money. If you got a work where you work long hours for little pay – you need to quit that ASAP, no matter what.

   If this sounds generic, then sorry – it is generic. glhf etc.

3. Sorry to hear that.

   Do you have a visa that allows you do anything in Japan? Like can you open a business or something like that?

4. While you have a stable job, try to leverage your advantages and develop something outside the box. You know Japanese, are in Japan and know your home country’s language and economy too. That’s more than 99.99% of other people. Try to do something online selling goods back home or something similar. Setup cost is nearly nothing.

5. Apparently there are 8 types of intelligence.

   Yours is not the kind that helps in studying, and that’s OK, you’re still intelligent and can do great things.

   Off the opt of my head, I’ve seen successful people in these areas of life that didn’t require formal education:

   * family and bringing up children
   * tour guides, small B&B owners
   * cooks/chefs/waiters/hairdressers
   * animal sitters / animal hotel operators
   * farmers (professional) and farmers (toy farms for children)
   * clowns, entertainers, bouncers, bartenders (even if society looks down on them)
   * university office clerks who deal with students and their problems (may require some degree)
   * forever backpackers, forever ski instructors

   I hope other comments will add to this list.

   If some of the above appeals to you, make it your profession!

6. How are you with computers?

7. Last year you were 20. Did a whole jump to 24.
   You should use your time skipping skills for the greater good.

8. I’m almost twice your age with similar experience. I came back to Japan after graduated high school in the United States. The only thing going for me at that time was I was bilingual. Well, I’ve never had a job where that mattered. Nobody cared I was fluent in English. So other than that I had no real skills and felt trapped. One day the frustration reached its limit and I decided to teach myself some skills and open my own business. It was a long, hard road but it worked out in the end. Now I am no longer lost and no longer poor.

9. Have you considered manufacturing work? Factory lines can be brutal but stable with room for some limited growth.

10. OP! Let me tell you about myself, so I used to think I am dumb and terrible at grasping things. I actually tanked my high school badly. Worked rando jobs in my 20s, barely making ends meet, thinking I am some dense moron. Until one day I took two separate IQ test that measured my level of grasping things and figured that my visual spatial IQ was higher than normal. That meant I grasp things from hands on learning watching how it’s done. Fast-forward later in my late 20s, I signed up for a bunch of course online, had to go through many to figure out what works for me ended up getting an entry level tech job , working along side seasoned degree holders and aced my scheduled assessment in 2 months when the threshold was 3 months. Fast-forward to now, I leveraged my experience to get into a Masters in Engineering program with a very reputable US University with low acceptance rates. Moral of the story, you’re smart but just don’t know it. It’s just that teaching styles differ and traditional schooling methods, mean that some people are left behind because the educators don’t have the right tools to educate them. You have to find what you’re good at, it may involve some trial and error. At 24, you still have time, you may feel pressured watching your peers progress, but you STILL have time. Even at 50, you STILL have time. No path is ever the same, the journey to self discovering your talent starts with you exploring. I hope this helps.

11. Trades could also be nteresting for you, but workplaces/bullying can be brutal. If you smell any red flags dont even bother continuing the interview.

12. Don’t be too hard on yourself. I had no savings either when I was 24, I don’t know many that actually do.

    I’d say find something you like and go at it. Whatever that is. You can find an apprenticeship or even try to use social media to showcase what you love the most. Don’t worry too much university is overrated.

13. It is not your fault.
    As a Japanese, I would like to apologize to you. If I could give you any advice, it would be: don’t give up. That is all. As long as you are alive, a path will open up before you.

14. I dropped out of uni in second year when i was 19 because i just couldnt do it. Took 5 years off, traveled the world on a shoestring and learned more than any textbook ever taught me. Eventually i realized the value of a uni degree so went back and started from zero. I paid my own way through the second time around and graduated when i was 28, started my career and now over 30 years later have a wife and 2 kids and live very comfortably. Not intended to be a humble brag, but rather a message of “it’s never too late to start something new”. Careers are not made overnight. They are nurtured over years and decades. Uni is not the path for everyone, but the path of education – no matter how you go about it – is a necessary, lifelong pursuit in securing some form of security and freedom.

    Many of us have been where you are today and have made it. You will too. Clearly youre aware of what is happening. That is an early first step. In the words of Bob Marley: “keep on moving”