Just found out today that my 38 year old date got pregnant and I want to know the do’s or don’ts when it comes to availing an abortion here in Japan.
For the background, I am a 29 year old male from the Philippines with a contractual job near Tokyo since March of 2022. Tried the dating app bumble to meet new people and got to meet a woman in her late 30s.
I am not very sure if having an abortion is going to be permitted since the woman seems to be in a wealthy economic background. Also, I have read somewhere that only those with social/economic reasons are eligible for an abortion.
I would appreciate any advice from you. I’m currently so stressed out right now and don’t know what to do. I certainly do not want a half-half baby.
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Does she want the abortion? It is her body so her choice.
Get a vasectomy so this does not happen again.
Things to think about before messing around
Anyone should be able to have an abortion under a certain amount of time.. unless its changed in the past few years? But unlikely that it has lol
But, does she want one?
You’ve already learned but uhh be carefuly with one night stands here, most women aren’t on any form of birth control
Have sex without a condom and this is a possible outcome.
It’s not up to you as the male to look up about abortions, that is her and her choice alone. You simply support her decision. If she wants to keep the child, congrats, you are now a dad.
Also what is a “half-half” baby? Explain yourself.
You don’t want it? Maybe you have thought about that before you had unprotected sex.
Congrats Dad!
I pray your trolling. If not, you’re despicable. I’m all for pro-choice, but it’s her fucking body and decision, not yours. You decided to rawdog it and now your actions have consequences.
If she wants the baby, she’ll keep it. Unfortunately, it’s your choice to decide if you want to care for it. Do dumb shit, dumb shit will happen.
Man up or shut up. Last but not least, not your uterus, not your problem.
Don’t want a child? Wear a condom.
This is 100% something you could have prevented. No sympathy here!
Yeah my dude, you don’t make these kind of posts just like that.
If it would have started with “I talked with my date and we are looking for help”, whole different story.
Only one that can “help” you in this situation is her right now.
And what is this “definitely not a half-half” statement?
Wealth has nothing to do with it. Especially with a younger Filipino guy (sorry about that)
Understand that at 38, it might be her last shot at getting a kid.
In any case you don’t have much leverage except continuing or not the relationship.
Don’t want the risk of conceiving a baby, keep it in your pants, it’s that simple. Her body, her choice. If she decides to keep it, there’s not much you can do and I would highly reconsider bringing up a termination with her if I were you because it might mean that she gets so upset that she will never ever let you meet the child. Something that sounds like a relief now but might be a great regret in later years.