First of all, I’m very happy I’ve found this community that will help me along side my Japanese learning journey. I’m celebrating a 100% score at distinguishing the 30 first hiragana! (a bit less in writing, but I keep improving).
My question is more about culture than language, but both since really linked together in Japanese.
A bit of back story: my brother (French) met his now wife a few years ago and they got married last year while living in Canada. They just move to Osaka and we will travel there with my mother for the wedding ceremony in April (the wedding itself will be in okinawa).
I’m a late diagnosed autistic, so social cue aren’t my best skill, but at the same time, I can be very good at following etiquette as long as the rule are clearly define (in short, I don’t guess the rules as most due).
As we will be staying at the family, on top of learning a bit of Japanese (and if I stay motivated in the long run, I hope more than “a bit”), I want to learn about japanese social rule, especially around “being a guest in a Japanese family” and “going to a Japanese wedding”.
Obviously, I’m also looking everywhere else for information and not just here, but if anyone already encounter a similar situation I would love some feedback or things I should research that are linked (as an example, I looked into gift giving/receiving as I assumed it will be important if staying at someone house)
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There are so many unwritten stuff and foreign concepts to you, I don’t think following an etiquette *precisely* is realistically possible.
I suggest you go through a whole bunch of generic advice so that you don’t violate a serious one. You get a *gaijin pass*, where your standards will be loosened more or less.
~~Unless the family members are xenophobic, which would make your efforts completely irrelevant.~~