I missed the first day of school because of various reasons, so today was my first day, so i didnt get to see how everyone reacted to meeting each other. But in the beginning everyone was very nice to me when i joined the class. They all wanted to talk to me which didnt suprise me because alot of foreign people i meet want to be friend me because i have an afro (i think thats the reason)
But throughout the class a girl wanted my facebook, i thought sure why not, but she passed my facebook user around to the class and the guys in the class. Everyone talked to me all throughout the class and after school, they all asked me if i wanted to come to their apartment as soon as today, not even go out to eat first. I apologized and said i was a bit busy today (im always busy) and they said okay, but soon we can go hangout in our apartment together.
One wanted to walk me to the bus stop and ran into some friends of hers and introduced us. She said something about me already having a boyfriend in america, her friend said he was sad to hear i had a boyfriend because im prety, she told me her other friend was single. And the two guys asked things like “is your boyfriend here with you?” “does he live with you” “are you here alone” “do you have any friends here”
I know speaking a 2nd language can make your questions blunter, and i know based on my other south/west asian friends that they can be flirty or overly friendly and curious
I just wanna know if this is just how they are in nepal, or if i should be cautious
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Yes, everyone in Nepal is famously exactly the same as everyone else.
… that’s racist.
Enjoy your new friends.
My Nepali classmates were friendly. Excessively friendly, I would say. Maybe they want to hang out with English speaking people? But if they make you uncomfortable, you should set boundaries with them.
Surprised kids are still using Facebook…
This is how most of the world used to be, friendly and accepting. This friendliness is still quite common in South Asian. I have travelled in SA for work quite a lot, and I don’t recall any SA country where at least one or more SA colleagues didn’t invite me to their home for lunch, dinner or tea. Hospitality is still top notch in that part of the world.
Its normal for them to do that. Bengalese are similar in my experience. Theyre kind. Ive never accepted the offers, but I know in some cultures it is considered to polite to make such offers and polite to say yes even if you have no intention of joining them
This reminded me of a time about ten years ago when I went into a Nepalese curry shop here in Japan. The waiter took my order, brought my food, and then came back probably once every two minutes to fill my water and ask me questions. Then, after I paid the bill, he basically dragged me into the back and asked me to help him finish setting up his PayPal account. It was really awkward.
Your a girl, and they are guys. That friendly vibe is not healthy. Stay away
Depends on your gender.
In my experiences 99% of the cases a Nepali, Indian or Middle Eastern man enters a Japanese friend group they are “playing good” with everyone else to win the Japanese girl in the group. And if that doesn’t go their way, they’ll drop the façade/lost interest real quick. I come from a very international background.
And I don’t say this lightly.
There’s nothing racist about calling out male dominant energy expressed differently in different cultures. If anything underdiscussed. I don’t know about their women.
Some cultures have very consistent “press the right buttons to get what they want” programming, some way more prominent than others.
Lol. Good luck in japan
I can’t answer your question, but I will say that if you ever eat at their house/restaurant and there is a small bowl of tiny green chiles on the table, DO NOT casually pop one in your mouth if your friend dares you to… at least not if you wanna taste anything for the next few hours.
I know two people from Nepal: one has been very friendly, and the other has been quite quiet ( -:
Boys asking if you have a boyfriend and saying that you’re pretty. It’s pretty obvious, isn’t it?
Whether it’s normal or not in Nepal, you should always be cautious regardless. Don’t be naive.
Friendly or not, just be careful about visiting people’s houses, especially those you barely know. Japan is safer than some other countries, but that doesn’t mean shit doesn’t happen here. Use your common sense.