Found out my wife is cheating tonight. I have evidence from their messages. I already confronted her and she admitted?
While she was cheating, she convinced me to lend her several hundreds of thousands of yen to pay off a loan. She said she is going to pay me back, but in the even that she doesn’t, do I have any legal recourse?
We have a child, i want to the child to stay with me. She said she’s only with that. In the event that she changes her mind and tries to fight it What are my options? Does evidence of her cheating give me power in custody fight?
Id prefer to stay in Japan, and Im working on finding another visa option.
Should I be talking to a laywer?
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Don’t end up like this poor soul and get a decent lawyer
[https://www.reddit.com/r/japanlife/comments/12q5695/awful_divorce_lawyer_got_me_screwed/](https://www.reddit.com/r/japanlife/comments/12q5695/awful_divorce_lawyer_got_me_screwed/)
Do you have proof of her cheating? And are you guys still living together?
What kind of debt? Host club?
You should go and give her mom ur erochinpo. That will be the power move.
Get proof, get a private investigator to get more proof, get a bull dog of a lawyer and threaten to sue him and her. Get the promise to repay your money in writing.
Do what your lawyer says
You should talk to a lawyer.
But some tidbits:
If on the rikon todoke, make sure you fill it out so that you have parental rights.
Cheating can give some advantage but varies. It depends on the context.
As for the loan, it be handled like any other civil debt case, you’d have to sue her to get money back.
If you have custody of the child, u should be eligible for a teijyushya SOR.
This loan sounds like her way of milking you prior to getting out of Dodge. You absolutely need a good lawyer. You may think you have an airtight case but there are biases against foreigners in the judicial system. Her and the dude she’s cheating on you wife if you has proof he knows she’s married is obligated to pay you reparations. If you don’t already have evidence he knew she was married, get it. Remember you can audio record her without asking.
Did you make your own Koseki or did you get added to her family ?
Collect evidence, record admission, sue her for 3,000,000-5,000,000 yen, collect money and divorce. For visa, look into ‘long term resident’ option (it’s not PR, it’s for people like you).
Is it me or is there another one of these threads almost every day?
Anyway, I’m sorry for you bro, lawyer up
Kick her out the house and keep your child in the house with you. Don’t let her take your child with her
Cheating is considered primate matters in Japan’s judicial law. What they consider in court is the “child’s happiness” and which parent has more benefits to make the child happy.
There is a high chance you will lose the custody if your wife changes her mind and wants the kid. So like everyone else said, get a lawyer.
Do not ask reddit. Get a lawyer.
Counseling?
Open marriage?
There are other options besides throwing it all away.
Get a lawyer. Don’t get emotional. This is now a business deal. You need to strategize