[https://imgur.com/a/K4Bqdp9](https://imgur.com/a/K4Bqdp9)
A. Would you drink coffee?
B. Is coffee alright?
C. Don’t rush to leave. Please have a cup of coffee.
D. We are thirsty. Would you like to have coffee?
First I don’t think such mean people exist anymore. Genuine Kyoto people often separate conversations between those for Kyoto people (their families) and others, and do not engage in such muddled conversations and look down others.
On top of that, I’ll explain it roughly.
To begin with, in this case, it is possible that you are not very welcome when you are offered something other than tea.
Judging from the image alone, tea has already been served to the householder, but not to the other party. You may guess not being welcome at the point where a different drink is offered.
Also, regarding the choice, the word “coffee” already includes the meaning of “drinking coffee” in the situation, but “A” goes to the trouble of using the word “drink” again to ask the question, so the intention is “Are you really going to drink coffee? (Are you still going to take your time?)” If you answer, “Yes, I will!” it is highly likely that the coffee will be poured into a tea cup (which is not for coffee). I think it is a little different to say that they are just checking as a courtesy (just within the scope of my experience).
As for “B”, if we follow the interpretation of what I just said, it would be, “Do you want coffee or something else?” This would mean that she wants to offer you what you want, which means that you are allowed to stay here a little longer.
So “B” is definitely the right answer. However, in this case, the person at home is drinking tea, so I think it would be better to return the concern to the questioner by answering “with the same thing as Miss” or “No, no, I’m fine with tea,” rather than going to the trouble of choosing coffee here, which is more time-consuming.
As for C, I think it is better to say, “I am satisfied now, but what about you? If you still have something you want to talk about, let’s continue. So, if you are asked like in C and you feel that you have talked too long, you can reply, “No, no, I’ll talk about it another time,” and end the conversation appropriately, or if you still have more to talk, you can say, “I’m leaving soon, so I don’t need to. Thank you for your concern,” and continue the long conversation.
I think D is strongly refusing. While there is still tea left, “we’re thirsty” means “Look at my teacup”. I think the intention would be to tell the other person that she is obviously contradicting herself and to show her intention that “I am so bored with you that I can’t proceed with the tea”.
If they say this, you should quickly withdraw. If you see them again, I think you should buy some cakes and tell them “Thank you for the other day,” and then they will ask you to have tea with them.
But as I told you at the beginning, there really is no one like this nowadays. It is most likely someone who has married and is trying to act as a Kyoto person.
Once again, what I said this time is just for the situation in the picture. It is not that if you are served anything other than tea, you are out or anything in a general situation.
Some people serve tea, some serve coffee. However, I feel that the questioner is wrong in this case, as I would never serve my own drink before the other person.
To add, the bubu-zuke culture has almost died out. (Offering bubu-zuke means refusing someone to stay in Japan.)
In everyday life, conversations like the psychological warfare questioned in this situation do not occur.
Some people say that Kyoto people are scary, but I don’t think people from other prefectures need to worry about it because I think many people separate communication between families and those who are not.
[https://twitter.com/towanokanae1984/status/1653994987141619714?t=2uYQfaB3xwu7H5H2szGU2Q&s=19](https://twitter.com/towanokanae1984/status/1653994987141619714?t=2uYQfaB3xwu7H5H2szGU2Q&s=19)
https://www.reddit.com/r/japan/comments/137iiag/when_kyoto_people_offer_you_a_cup_of_coffee/
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This is way too high a level of KY for me to hope to understand. I once knew a lady from Kyoto who refused to ever talk to me again when I wasn’t sure how to respond correctly to “Please come to my house sometime”. The correct answer was “Ok!” and then actually do it which was the opposite of what I expected. Wtf this kind of double blind stuff is impossible for me to get. I’ll just stay away from Kyoto.
How tiring it must be to play such mind games.
>Some people say that Kyoto people are scary, but I don’t think people from other prefectures need to worry about it because I think many people separate communication between families and those who are not.
“separating communication by people” there’s the clue of their true color😈
What a miserable, petty way to live. I hope this post is exaggerated.
This sort of content about Kyoto has been around for a long time and repeated countless times, but it’s really getting old these days. TV shows have been in decline but this is a good example of it.
Tiring.
I am way too drunk to understand this although I feel like if I were sober it wouldn’t be much better.
Kyot people can get bent. Only place in Japan I’ve ever had trouble. Bunch of c****