One night stands aren’t my thing and I’m looking for a more long term relationship. That being said, from what I’ve heard a lot on the platform are looking to marry, which I can’t commit to at the moment.
I can speak Japanese and want to find japanese to date with and plan to stay after graduating. Is it okay to use pairs even if I’m not working? Any other apps you would reccomend?
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I liked the site with.is – it’s Japanese language only and more for longer relationships
Use Pairs if you want to. There are a lot of women looking to marry, sure, but that’s not everyone, and that something you can suss out while talking and going on dates.
The only other app I’d recommend would be Bumble.
Once you get up past 25 or so Pairs gets (on average) more serious and long-term/marriage focused, but if you have your age range set up at, say, 20-24 you will mostly get paired with other students and recent graduates.
The fact that they’re on Pairs and not Tinder/Bumble/etc is probably a good sign that they are more relationship focused. You may run into some people looking to get married, but there will probably be a majority, or at least a sizable number of people, that are closer to what you’re looking for. Most early-20s people won’t be looking to get married right away.
There is no such thing as “one night stand” apps. If you want something serious, just be clear about your intentions if the subject comes up when you chat to each other and act like it.
Avoid mentioning it on the bio, it comes out easily as lying since guys into ONS often will say they are looking for a long term relationship to get girls easily.
If you’re a guy and a student, I don’t recommend it. It’s expensive and as a student you’ll probably have lower chances than someone making the big bucks.
On the other hand, if you’re a women it doesn’t matter because it’s free for women. And a guys don’t care about women’s jobs, as long as they’re pretty. You could be a butcher, Hitler’s personal assistant, or in charge of testing dangerous chemicals on baby seals, it won’t make a difference.
Try meeting someone at the uni, that’s much more fun than the dating apps and that’s how I got married : )
You can give Pairs a try but it’s not likely to yield you many prospects as a university student. Your best bet will be to go out at night often and talk to lots of people. Bumble is probably a decent thing to spend a couple minutes on a day as well.
I am not into hookups either. But it is important to understand that in today’s age the hookup sphere is the gate and key to valuable longer term relationships.