My girlfriend who I have been seeing for a few months sent me text messages last night while I was asleep that she thinks her life is over and she is going to hurt herself. I woke up this morning and couldn’t contact her, and when I went to her workplace, they said she didn’t show up today. I then visited her house and nobody answered the door.
So I decided to go to the nearest police box and tell them about the situation and asked them to check on her, but they said they cant do anything about it unless its a family member that requests it. The problem is she only has a Mother and Father who dont use any social media and I have no idea how to contact them. I just got home from the police box and have no idea what to do now
The police said its possible that maybe she just doesn’t want to talk to me anymore and is ghosting me. But considering all the above context, that is definitely not the case, and even if it is, they shouldn’t ignore it right??
Right now my plan is to check at her home and then work place again tomorrow morning, and ask her work to contact her emergency contact if she hasn’t shown up. But at this point, I’m scared its already too late, and I feel so powerless.
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Go to a bigger police station. I can’t believe that they would just “not my problem” shrug like that…..
Definitely seek out a proper police station as the other commenter suggested. They absolutely can and should perform a welfare check.
Of course don’t discount the fact that she might have npd and is manipulating you. Find that out quick….and run.
Contact her work, ask them to contact the police and do a wellness check on her.
Sorry you’re going through this.
I had a similar situation recently. Police took it very seriously and responded immediately and professionally. This was in the city’s major police station, rather than police box. I would head to a proper station.
>The police said its possible that maybe she just doesn’t want to talk to me anymore and is ghosting me.
I suppose this is technically possible but I seriously doubt she’d text you something so attention-grabbing if she wanted to ghost you. I don’t have any advice that people haven’t already given (namely, expressing your concerns to her workplace), and while I know that you know this I want to reassure you this is definitely a serious matter and you’re reacting with the appropriate amount of urgency.
Call 119 now, tell them your girlfriend is threatening suicide and have the police check on her. Don’t just go to a koban because it’s for minor things that aren’t 119 worthy.
Sounds like a wellness check situation.
Since you know where she works, contact the company, ask for her direct superior, tell them about the situation. They have your gf’s parents contact info. They can also call the police, especially if this is not normal behavior for her to not show up to work unannounced.
Have you contacted any of her friends? They may be able to contact her.
Contact the company that manages her property. We reached out to them when our colleague was absent for a while. They helped us into the house, although it was too late. (He passed away due to illness, not suicide.)
I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I hope this ends well and you both get all the support you need.
I don’t know if this is fake or not, but if my girlfriend texts me that she will hurt herself and no one answers the door, the first thing I would do is try to break into the house, climb over the balcony, or something rather than going to Reddit and asking around.
> Right now my plan is to check at her home and then work place again tomorrow morning, and ask her work to contact her emergency contact if she hasn’t shown up. But at this point, I’m scared its already too late, and I feel so powerless.
It’s like he is talking about a random person he barely know, not his gf lol.
Hope it ends well for you and also for her bud. My advice is get out of that relationship asap after this situation. I lived through years of that, it must have taken years off of my life dealing with the stress of it. The hospital runs, the family conversations…. Ugh dude please just get out ASAP.
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Get another girlfriend while you are still young enough to be able to.
I’m sorry you have to go through this… I hope you can find her and that she’s OK 🙁
I’ve been on your girlfriend’s side of things many times. Sometimes the desire to hurt yourself is so great that you forget for a moment how much that will also hurt the people around you, so please forgive her.
I hope I’m not sounding stupidly optimistic, but she might just be too depressed to see anyone she cares about and is just hiding from the world for a while. Send her a message telling her how much you love her and believe in her and are looking forward to seeing her when she’s ready.
I hope we get an update
I hope she is alive and OP find his peace.
The police never do anything. I got my teeth punched out by my husband and it’s just a domestic problem.
Just stop talking to this crazy bitch
Hope you’re doing alright OP. I hope she’s okay, too.
I’ve been through similar situations. I’ve lost a few people to suicide, most recently three weeks ago. I’ve had other friends attempt and fail. Obviously it’s bad for them, but *everyone* will underestimate how bad it is for you. It’s not just a death, or the loss of a loved one. It’s something much more than that, more difficult to deal with and harder to understand.
Regardless of her state, this is a *trauma*. You need to deal with it to take care of yourself. Find a professional and talk to them, keep tabs on any growing depression, and take action early. Don’t feel like you have to stay with her — protecting your health is more important, because she’ll have a team of doctors taking care of hers while you’re on your own.
I hope you stay well.