I was attacked by my step brother out of the blue and suffered bruises and bumps along my shoulder and chest.This was the first time he was physically abusive but has always been verbally.
My parents were there yesterday so they were able to keep him off but they went to their vacation today and I don’t feel safe in my home. They’ll be gone for 10 days and Im staying at my mother’s store. I want to go back home so bad but I’m afraid that he might attack me again. Now I’m thinking of filing a Restraining Order but I don’t know how.
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I would say best way is to go to the actual police station. They would beale to best inform you about your options.
First file a police report for the existing attack.
If you have a place to stay away from him, stay there, and call the police if he tries to come find you.
If you want a longer term restraining order, it has to be filed with the courts. It’s called 保護命令.
I guess your step brother is mal-adjusted or has some social disorder?
I’m sorry for what you’re going trough. Domestic violence is a huge trigger for PTSD for a reason and you deserve to feel safe in your own home and for others to take it seriously what happened to you. First step would be to go to the police to build up a file, you need to get this on record. Also, how old are you? Regardless of age, as a parent I would have a hard time going on holiday knowing my child is stuck in the house with an abusive family member and fearing for their safety.
I get the feeling that a big chunk of this story is missing, especially based on the fact that the parents are comfortable enough to leave for their vacation.
To obtain a restraining order you must file a petition with the district court (地方裁判所).
When you file, you need to present your evidence such as a medical certificate showing that you have been injured as a result of physical domestic violence, a photo, or an audio/video recording of the threat you received.
https://www.adire.jp/lega-life-lab/no-access-order249/
Also, if your Japanese is not good enough you should go with someone who can speak for you otherwise your case may be dismissed.
Well, what did you say to him that made him attack you that way?
OK.. are the reason is???? Tell the whole story or dont bother.
Going out on a limb here that one dependent can’t file a restraining order against another in the same household
I didn’t feel like telling the story as it is very private and Im still processing the incident myself but It seems like a lot of people are confused.
I didn’t say anything. I’ve been going through a hard time finding a job, last 2 jobs I had I was bullied for not being able to fluently speak & write in Japanese and I work at a Japanese Company. Yes, I do disclose to each company that I am Half and I can speak in Japanese if it’s a Regular Conversation and not at Business Level.I almost had to quit immediately. That conveyed to my brother as me “Asonderu” he believes that if I don’t have a job it means that im just playing around when in fact it’s really hard to keep a job and also get in one as someone without a degree , not a Native Level Speaker and only came to Japan 4 years ago. I discuss this with my parents and they help me with it but I didn’t feel the need to discuss it to my step brother who I barely know. Whenever he comes up to me he would often say “Fuzaken na, Why can’t you get your life together” or “Why don’t you go back to your country? You’re just a meiwaku here” he also threatens me that he will do something next time. And Yesterday our nosy neighbor told my brother that he’s seen my moped (which I use to commute) parked outside my home a lot. That might’ve light up something within him and cause him misunderstood it for me as he often says “asonderu” but in reality I am currently employed but as a part time. I work at a fast food chain where they promise to give me 5 days a week of work for 7 hours but they prioritize the baito students who has scheduled days so as a result I dont get shifts that often. Yes,my parents know about this as well. And going back to yesterday when my brother attacked me , I didn’t say anything. He didn’t ask me about my current situation and chose to hold the neighbor’s statement as it is without talking to me. I wasn’t even aware of his presence as I was talking to my parents and my back was turned to the direction he was coming. That’s where he threw his slides which are thick and heavy at my back and lunged at me grabbing my collar and shaking me. His fist hit my chest area that resulted to bruising.My Step Father kept him off and We were all confused he was asking “What’s the matter” but my step brother “Didn’t I tell you next time I’ll do something to you, Quit fcking around.The neighbor told me you’re jobless again,he sees your moped parked outside for days now”. As I’ve said Im employed but I have an irregular shift.I was crying while explaining to him my situation but with this anger and frustration of being attacked without having a chance to defend myself or even explaining caused me to yell “You dont have to hurt me , I can explain if you just ask!” at the end and he lunged at me again saying why the fuck was I yelling. My parents kept him off and I was trying to push him away and that’s where I got my bump on my arm , he was forceful. My parents were silent throughout his rage but my mother scolded me for yelling saying I should’ve just ended it with the explanation and apologize. I told her no, I have a reason to be mad and I can scream after what happened and that I was the one who deserves and apology. She insisted that one of us have to be the bigger man or it wont end . I just wanted this to be over so I said I will apologize for yelling If he apologize for hurting me. And so I did but his apology was half assed and even laughed after then left.
I was crying to my mom asking why I was alone and that she didn’t say anything. She said she was protecting everyone and that she was sorry. My step father assured me that he’ll talk to his son.I stayed with them in their room because I was still shaken but when I calmed down they talked about not going to their vacation because they don’t want to leave me alone here but I said that I don’t want them to waste their money on the ticket they bought and that I’ll just stay at my mom’s store until they get back.I went back to my place but that night I didn’t get any sleep I was scared, I was afraid that someone is behind me even though I was alone. I was having panic attacks and flashbacks.I called suicide hotline as I was considering self harm but they advised me to report, and go stay somewhere else. I cant go anywhere as I have pets I have to take care of but I can report. I am currently staying at the store and come home for a few hours to tend to my pets.I am considering filing a restraining order so that I can feel safe and go back to my place without having to worry about being hurt again.
I am F 23, and I didn’t felt the need for the story to be shared since I am asking for help with the restraining order. Please dont dismiss my concern just because you dont have my backstory.