Hi everyone,
If you decide to pierce your daughter’s ears, when do you do it? In my country it’s usually done when they are 6-7 years old, but my Japanese mother-in-law told me, that here girls pierce their ears after they finish high school, since it’s not allowed to wear earrings while at the school. Does anybody at school care if they see that students have their ears pierced?
Edit: thank you for all your concern and parental advice that was not asked for lol. This is a theoretical question, since my daughter is one and if we get her ears pierced it will be no sooner than in elementary school, when she will be able to decide too. Hold your horses, warriors.
Thank you for all responses that actually answered my question 🙂
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Not as much of a blanket thing as it was in the past but the majority of schools still enforce a no earrings in school rule quite strictly.
No jewelry, no earrings, no dyed hair, no modifying uniform. Quite often there’s a no smartphone rule until at least high school as well
Depends on the school. If it is against the school rules they will care and will ask her to remove them.
Piercings when they’re 7, first tattoo when they’re 11.
We didn’t go for it but a family friend (both parents are Japanese) pierced their girls’ ears at like age 5. She just showed them some cute earrings and they were all for it.
It’s not that you can’t have pierced ears at school, it’s more that you can’t wear earings at school, and if you can’t wear your earings for ages isn’t that bad for the piercing hole etc? Also when else will they be able to wear em, it’ll just be a hassle for her.
Because schools are strict and you need to have an earring in the ear to keep it from closing, I recommend waiting until after highschool.
Also looking at the Karens in the comment section that go off topic about how you should parent your children. OP didn’t ask. Answer the question at hand or don’t.
Wearing earnings is an adult thing and I cringe every time I see a baby or kid with earrings. Honestly what value is there in having a 6-year-old where earrings?
It 100% depends on the uniform policy of school they attend and plan to attend 🙂
But actually lots of adult women here don’t even have their ears pierced and instead opt for clip on earrings. In accessory shops there are two sections, ピアス and イアリング, distinguishing between real piercings and clip ons
I’m not a mom but all the Indian/Nepali people I’ve met who tend to get it done early (like 1 or 2) were told they had to take them out for school.
If your daughter wants them consult the school your daughter will go to about their dress code.
Places can be strict. I tutor a kid from an international school by me and he got reprehended for wearing a friendship bracelet.
> If you decide to pierce your daughter’s ears
Piercings should only be done with informed consent of the individual being pierced. The decision should be hers, not yours.
It would be a waste.
Piercing holes close when not maintained with a place holder piercing.
And since schools are strict, your kid won’t be able to maintain the piercing.
Might as well leave her until she is an adult and then if she wants to get pierced then buy her some swanky earrings if it’s important to you.
Do it if you want to. It part of your culture.
Your daughter may have to just wear those clear stud piercings that they sell at Daiso while at school instead of something cute, or not allowed to wear anything while at school, but that is it.
Make her do it. Is easier later anyway.
I think it just depends on what the kid or parent wants! But I would say most (but not all!) my Japanese girl friends either got it after high school or don’t have them pierced.
It depends on what your daughter wants and what the school allows. You can get clear or skin-colored retainers while they’re at school if necessary. If you do pierce them, then I recommend going to a professional as well.
Edit: I’ve seen the local ES schools allowing dyed hair. No piercings. But it seems to be changing a little.
When she says she wants them:)
I thought most parents pierce kids ears before 5
Before 6 months in some culture.
Depends on where you plan to send her to school, really.
Most International Schools (*real* international schools) won’t care even in elementary school. Tuition at schools like that ranges from 2mil JPY to 4mil JPY per year. A few are higher.
If she’s going to a Japanese school (public or private) then she won’t be allowed to wear earrings to school and the holes will close.
Our daughter went to a public elementary school and then an International School from middle school onwards. She got her ears pierced sometime during middle school but I forget exactly what age.
When she does have them pierced, please take her to a proper body piercing place and make sure she follows the after-care instructions. Piercing infections are no joke.
I try not to puncture children as a general rule
Not a parent of a girl I have a boy. But that being said if he wanted his ears pierced I’d do it. I wanted my ears pierced at 6 years old and my mom let me. Not traumatized. It was quick. Perhaps do it in the holidays so it has time to heal then she can take it out for school. If you’re lucky some schools are more lenient than others and might allow it. I have an elementary school kid I teach who has dyed hair.