I have been working part time at a hotel for over a year. For many personal reasons I would like to quit as soon as I possibly can.
My manager is basically an overbearing bully which is why I’m stressed out about leaving.
She will shame me so hard since she pulled strings to get the company to sponsor my visa renewal. “Don’t you remember how 大変 that visa renewal was? You always expect people to do things for you. You are so SELFISH”
I don’t think she will let me go so easily since we are understaffed. Someone else tried to quit but the manager manipulated her into staying…
At this point I’m considering using a 代行 to quit because I’m worried about other things in my life and would like to minimize the stress of quitting as much as possible.
But how would the timing work for this? The contract states we need to say we are leaving 3 months in advance which is ridiculous.
I mean I could also say I have a personal emergency and need to go back to the states but I’m not sure I could make the lie come off as believable to her since she will probe me for the details (her speciality)
It’s depressing to me how much I have to stress about this low paying job 😞 It honestly feels like being a part of a shame-based cult
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Get all your documents and belongings together, withdraw all your money, block however your manager contacts you, leave on the Friday and fly out over the weekend. Seriously who gives a shit.
By law you only need 2 weeks quitting notice. If they say that the contract says 3 months let them know you will go to the Labour Office and tell them they wont accept your 2 weeks notice.
“she pulled strings to get the company to sponsor my visa renewal”
She did that for herself, not for you.
Give her a month or give her 2 weeks. Legally you’re only required to give her 2 weeks but most consider it good practice to do it 1 month beforehand.
If you have any paid time off, I would suggest planning those before giving the notification.
Stop being a doormat. All you need to do is give your 2weeks notice and ignore her passive-aggressive complaints after that. There’s no such thing as a 3month notice.
>I don’t think she will let me go so easily since we are understaffed. Someone else tried to quit but the manager manipulated her into staying…
Quitting a job is a unilateral decision. Making decisions and standing by them is an important part of adulting. This is a great chance to practice.
Also remember that the notice duration allows you to include all your holidays too.
Law supercedes contracts.
A three-month notice is excessive and would never hold up in court.
Submit your 退職届 with the date of your resignation, continue working until that date, then walk out the door. A minimum notice of two weeks (commonly one month) is required.
That’s it. They can’t stop you. You’re not a slave.
Just tell her that you are leaving in 2 weeks and when she starts to blubber you tell her to read the law. It’s very clearly written.
These companies only do things like this because people allow it.
It doesn’t matter what they “did” for your visa. The visa was given by the immigration and any problems related to that is between you and the immigration, whatever else she is saying is meaningless.
I don’t wanna be rude, but are you an adult? There is no hard time in quitting, they can’t force you to do shit. You aren’t a slave, are you? Give your two weeks or just quit on the spot. Write down the letter saying you are quitting for personal reasons, put the date you are going to stop working and send them back whatever they gave you (uniform, locket keys etc) and you can demand your payment to be done in X days, after your final day at work (there is a law about this, but double check it)
They’ll have to pay for whatever time you worked for, whether they like it or not. Any problems regarding payment just go to the Ministry of Labour.
honestly, if i were you, i’d quit before your next shift if you arent worried about being unemployed. fuck that bitch for her overbearing manipulation. she does that because she gets away with it. dont let her get away with it. put your foot down, tell her its none of her business why you are quitting (you dont actually need to tell them a reason) and then just peace the fuck out. dont talk to them afterwards, except to get your final pay. they arent going to sue you even if you are supposed to give two weeks. but if you feel you should give 2 weeks, then give two and only two weeks and stick to that. ignore any other attempts to get you to stay. they have only the power over you, that you let them have.
Just quit. She can say whatever she wants, it doesn’t matter, you can still just quit.
2 weeks notice is the legal required amount and overrides whatever is in a contract. There’s an exception if it’s your 1st contract with them, then it can be longer. Still needs to be a reasonable amount so very little chance 3 months would hold up in court. If it’s not your 1st contract with them then it’s definitely 2 weeks.
If you are on a time defined contract (ex: 1 year contract) and you have not yet renewed it, legally the 3 months could be okay. However they would have to sue you and prove how much business loss you incurred, and how much effort they made to replace you etc in court.
If you are on a non-time defined contract, regularly called seishain contract, then the legal time you are required to give is 2 weeks. They cannot refuse you quitting, since it’s not a request it’s a notice.
Speaking of notice, you probably have Days off remaining. When you give them your 2 week notice, you give them notice also you will be taking all your remaining days, again they cannot really refuse. If it means your last day at work is tomorrow, so be it.
If you don’t feel good about doing it yourself, you can ask a friend to deliver the letter to your boss, or send by post with signature request. Noneed to pay for daiko service. I would still advise you go yourself, for the experience it will give you in dealing with stressful situations in the future!
She is bullying you because you are letting her do that. Just stand up for yourself.
Decide which day is going to be your last physical day in the hotel and then add on any paid holidays that are allowed to you. Then figure out what date that is after the holidays. Put that all into writing and give it to her. That’s the law
As someone who has sponsored a visa renewal, the amount of work is pretty trivial. Last one took me less than a hour to assemble the necessary paperwork.
Time to be an adult. Tell her you’re quitting.
What’s with all the posts recently where people are afraid to quit because of some kind of conflict with management?
Jesus…if you’re that scared, just ghost them. Tape a note to the door. Any of a hundred ways to drag up and not deal with their shit tomorrow.
You know what? Message me, and I’ll call them for you.
“So and So quits effective immediately.”
“But they have a contrac…click…moshi-moshi?”
In my experience in life. I have been screwed over many times by employers with the “nothing personal but, business is business”. So basically I have learned you have to look out for yourself. Especially as a foreigner in Japan.
W.e she may or may not say. Just ignore her cause in reality who cares about her opinion. Just be like そうですねぇ〜
I don’t think it’ll affect anything if you didn’t finish the contract.
I myself been in the same situation. I was working in a hotel before and was bullied by coworkers and bosses. I didn’t like how the salary was and sometimes i had to work a week straight without any day offs. It was so stressful and the worst thing that ever happened to me.
I did research, call embassy/immigration, applied to jobs that will better suit me.
My embassy advised me to get a company/job first that will sponsor my visa and from there I can change my visa. It was from SSW visa to Instructor it was a smooth process where I just had to wait for 2 weeks for a change of visa.
My point is, do it for your own sanity. If you’re not happy with your work and cannot do it anymore do researching and stuff if you need to go to embassy or immigration then go.
It’ll all be worth it in the end.
Plus, the hotel will not sue you or anything for not finishing the contract. You can sue them for bullying actually. You just have to tell your embassy or Japan embassy about that.
Best of luck!
Sing him this song: I quit, I quit , I quit and I quit !
Doormatting will get you nowhere in life. Grow a spine and be an adult about it, this isn’t 1950s America, you can quit whatever job you want.
It sounds like you’re thinking of moving back home, and if so, everyone else has given good advice already.
IF you plan on staying in Japan, as much as possible find a new job before quitting. I know it seems like obvious advice, but plenty of people don’t do it.
Last time I quit, I gave them 1 month notice since we had a good relationship and didn’t want to leave my coworkers hanging during peak season. But as everyone has said, 2 weeks is more than enough.
Look for another job. Make sure you have it (and guarantee of visa) Once that’s guaranteed, give as much notice as you can. You’re not required or obligated to do more than that. I technically gave a month’s notice to my previous job because I had three weeks of holidays saved, but in practical terms four days notice.