Hi everyone. So I’m just asking something on behalf of a friend who doesn’t want to make an alt (she doesn’t use Reddit in the first place)
Edit: Just clarifying she teaches adults, not minors. She’s an English teacher who teaches informal English for people who want to speak and understand English that isn’t quite textbook quality.
She told me that recently one of her English students invited her to go to something called a “女子会” or “Girls Party.” At first she assumed it would be at a reserved karaoke center or a dedicated party room, but when she checked the address of where the party was going to be it led to a love hotel. She’s now confused because she’s not sure what the intentions of the party would be. She also doesn’t stay in touch with her student when she isn’t in the classroom with her, so she has no way to ask her to clarify. She described her student as being a bit casual and definitely into nightlife, but she has no idea what kind of people she’s into or dating.
Is this something innocent that just looks weird because it’s happening at a love hotel? I know some love hotels have gripes about two guys using their rooms but neither she nor I have ever thought about a love hotel outright encouraging 2+ girls using their rooms. Any guesses?
I chose the flair because I guess this is as everyday as it gets with Japanese culture.
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It’s innocent, not weird, and totally normal. Love hotels are often used for innocuous things, chief among which is joshi kai.
Is it a party with several friends ? It’s not unthinkable to have a normal pajama party in a love hotel: They have nice amenities, likely better than if in a student’s 1K or parents. Bathing might be a group activity.
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That being said, she might have other motives
女子会 in hotel (including love hotel) is a thing. Get a room for a while and hang out without dealing with family or small apartments, etc.
It sounds like “your friend” is a teacher though. Teachers going to hotels with their students sounds like a bad idea to me, whatever the reason.
Lots of Love Hotels offer plans for 女子会 as a way to get money and stay in business because there’s less young people who need a place to bone down.
It’s a specific service offered by the hotel and isn’t that odd.
[It’s a thing](https://www.google.com/search?q=%E5%A5%B3%E5%AD%90%E4%BC%9A+%E3%83%A9%E3%83%96%E3%83%9B&rlz=1C5CHFA_enJP971JP971&oq=%E5%A5%B3%E5%AD%90%E4%BC%9A%E3%80%80%E3%83%A9%E3%83%96%E3%83%9B&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUyBggAEEUYOTIHCAEQIRiPAtIBCDU1NjRqMGo3qAIAsAIA&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8#ip=1)
Damn, I learned something new!
Some of the bigger chains commonly advertise this use very prominently.
It is definitely a thing.
But would you enter a love hotel for any reason with a student?
Would you go to a party with someone you don’t stay in touch with and have no way to contact?
I always see adverts for those Bali an places having girls parties. It’s a thing, I guess because most people don’t have a home big enough (or the neighbours won’t appreciate it) to host. Usually see it for the lonely singles around Xmas.
Should she be going with her student to a love hotel though? No, probably not eh.
My ex gf and her friends stay at love hotels for girls parties because they can be very nice and even nicer than regular hotels. It’s affordable too. It’s usually a normal thing.
Edit: while it’s a normal thing. Should still be a pass for your friend if they are really close just to avoid any misunderstandings
Did a 女子会 in the party room of a BaliAn, it was nice. We got a free… whatever they call that cube of shokupan topped with ice cream, and drinks. Plus the free amenities from the lobby. And the party room had a jacuzzi on the balcony.
It’s been popular among college girls for several years.
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It’s a thing! There are specific package plans for 女子会 in love hotels.
My ex girlfriend used to tell me about going to parties with her friends at what I later found out was a love hotel chain, but if you didn’t know that you’d think that’s exactly what it was for: They offer all kinds of “we just want to hang out and feel luxurious for a bit” services. You order desserts and stuff. There’s a weird bread cube involved. I’ve also seen these types of events in manga. Basically the way you use it is exactly like a reserved party room.
It actually really helped break my image of love hotels as being seedy establishments.
So I’m pretty sure this is a real thing. I wish guys had an equivalent but it might just be going to the izakaya which is fun and all but I want to feel luxurious with the homies too sometimes.
The weird thing here is arranging to meet up without thinking to exchange contact details / LINE etc..
It is 2023.
How old are these students? is she a college professor or is this an eikawa with college aged students over 20 years old? What policies does her workplace have regarding fraternization?
It is normal for a teacher to be at a celebration once a semester or so to celebrate their students as a department, but that is just a normal nomikai. If these are high school kids… I would say politely decline. But college? or adult students? That would require some context and additional information.
Its kinda a thing. When I was a student in Osaka a couple of our female teachers would regularly come drinking with us after school and a couple times someone had organised parties in love hotels which they also came to.
Interesting, never heard of that.
The only issue I see is like how serious is this Eikawa she’s teaching at? If it finds out she was drinking in a love hotel with young students, would they let her go? I’ve worked at places where ‘student parties’ got out of hand and lines were crossed all over the place but nothing happened, it then again that was 2008-2010.
Bali an?
Ya you guys just hang out
it would help if you told us which love hotel it is.
If its pne pf the big modern chain hotels like bali an, they are def used for this kind of thing as well as a love hotel. if its a rather old, small and cheap hotel maybe its a sifferent story lol
Groups of people go to love hotels because of the cheap price, soundproof rooms and amenities like Karaoke
Sounds fun af.
I’ve had girls parties at love hotel. some of them serve all you can drink alcohol at the lobby to bring to the room. Karaoke and eat in room. It’s a safe and somewhat cheaper way to party with your girls, compared to paying expensive taxi and somehow ends up at Shibuya meltdown Instagram page.
I think most companies would have policies against personal relations / meet ups with clients.
haha girl parties are a thing at love hotels! i’ve done those too and there are even hotels advertising for that exact purpose. but it still doesn’t exclude the fact that there could also be something shady going on although unlikely. i would feel better if your wife had hang out with them before.
Recently some love hotels started to offer 女性会 – for women only parties.
(I live not far from drinking area full of love hotels.)
I have no idea if it is set in a regular room or not, but the advertisement looked “clean”. ( no dirty stuff).
I assumed it was to make a bit money, if they can’t get enough “regular” customers.
It’s completely normal, good place, you can rent by hours, you can be loud without bothering other people.
If she call you midway, check for weird noises
Yes that is pretty normal . There even a couple videos on YouTube about this very topic. Tokyo creative is one I remember on the top of my head. As long as her workplace doesn’t have any rules regarding this it should be fine.
Many girls are doing girls party or birthdays at love hotels (nothing sexual). Some love hotels have advertisements in front with “女子会OK” written on them. She should check the love hotel, if it’s a little fancy, new and clean it’s probably ok! Also, it’s more common with younger generations. I’m guessing the student is younger than 35.