Crazy neighbor: Harassing me for Money and Being Petty

Just as the title says my neighbor has been begging and Harassing me for money.

I am new to Japan and I stay in a sharehouse. My neighbor is a forigner like me and he doesn’t follow the rules of the sharehouse. He leave messes in the common areas(shower, toilet, kitchen sink), and he constantly has an “overnight” guest over. They are very loud at night.

The first instance came when I caught him touching my clothes. I was 5 minutes late to putting my clothes in the dryer. We have 2 other washes that he could have used mind you. But I politely said “please do not touch my clothes. Just ask me next time (he knew they were mine) or use the other free machines”. After that he knocked on my door to ask me for 10,000¥. Yes, you read that right. He said he needed money for food and transportation at that time I felt bad for him so I have him 1,000 ¥. BIG MISTAKE. I gave him my Instagram after that not thinking anything of it. He continued to harass me for Money so I said ” I cannot help you please do not ask me again” And I blocked him. After that he began to so do petty things. Like when I would turn out the hallway lights after night he would deliberately leave his room just to turn them back on. And I started finding dead roaches in my laundry and I began to get a weird rash on my neck. And today he came to my door again begging me for money. I recorded him this time. And my friends said this is literally insane behavior.

I’m constantly worried what he will do next. I cannot afford to move now. I have told the sharehouse what he has been doing and they said they will talk to him about the accusations. But they do not handle tenants issues. To call the police if it continues. My question to you all is is this reasonable enough to call the police and file a report? I thought about moving but I don’t have enough right now to move my only other option is to buy a plane ticket back home.

10 comments
  1. Japanese police are obligated to come respond to any call/report, so you’ll definitely not be told anything like “this is too petty, we’re not gonna do anything”.

    So I say it’s worth a try, at the very least this will already be documented should it escalate in the future. The foreigner guy will also see that you have means to deal with him and he will see that Japanese police are more than willing to deal with a foreigner who is misbehaving.

    Just my 2 cents. Best of luck.

  2. Tell this to your sharehouse management company. Make it certain they know you feel afraid and unsafe. Do this in written form. Present evidence (and preferably make sure that’s in the written documents; print something at the conbini if needed). If they do nothing, then go to the police with these documents.

  3. When he approaches you again, tell him – loud and clear – that everything that he’s been doing is being reported to your family, to the share house company, and the authorities, and that you are calling the police (and call it!).
    Tell the cops about the harassment, and contact the police and the share house company every single time he shows up in your room or harasses you.

    Do you have any male friends who could visit you so the guy knows you aren’t alone? Sometimes cowards like him will think twice about fucking with ppl when they see that there are men around.

    And If he ever tries to touch you, kick his balls but kick it good, run and call the cops. Show him you ain’t playin’.

  4. Document everything. Report every incident to the management company.

    Hopefully he is the one who has to move out. However, you may get lucky and be able to move to another property of theirs for not a crazy cost.

  5. Not sure what share house company you’re with, but when I had issues with a psycho sharemate, they relocated me within a day, to another house under their purview.

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