Sorry if this is wrong place to post.
My wife gave a birth to lovely daughter last month on October.
She is now 1 month and 16 days.
She is doing good, but only issue is it is very hard to feed her.
She cries, fuss, stretch her body back when bottle feeding. Since my wife’s breast has also reduced due to other medial complications, we are sticking with formula.
We even went to hospital where she was born and they recommend to do checkup at general hospital which we did.
All normal , just a gas issue but not a major issue as mentioned by doctor.
We changed many bottles, nipples, recently changed formula type too. But still same issue. She doesnt want to drink.
Her weight is not gaining due to this factor which is our major concern.
Upon looking on google and other friends suggestion, someone came up with providing gripe water which might help with colic. When asked to doctor (by showing google image and iherb image) , the didnt recommend it.
So can anyone suggest if there is such a gripe water version in Japan?
Our baby weight is around 3.7kg , and at this time her weight should have been 4.2-4.5kg as per doc and clinics.
Her feeding rate is about 30-40ml. Sometime she goes about 80ml but only when force feeding
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Alcohol, opium and sugar?
You gotta wait until she turns 20.
Listen to your doctors and maybe hire a doula
Haven’t found gas drops here, but got them from iHerb. Delivery is fast from Korea. HIGHLY recommend! We used Mommy’s Bliss brand gas drops (simethicone) which worked beautifully. They also have “gripe water” but I chose simethicone.
By the way, our ped here was also confused what “gas drops” are when I mentioned them. I don’t think they will recommend anything they are unfamiliar with.
I don’t know what gripe water is and can’t help.
1. Do you have a 子育て支援センター in your area?
They are professional and I’m sure they can help you.
2. Your city may have 保健師 visit your house to check with baby. Ask your city and they may come visit you to help.
You could go with grandma’s old recipe of a shot of whiskey and a tablespoon of honey mixed together then rubbed on baby’s gums till it quieted down.
congrats on your baby.
biogaia does some probiotic drops for infants that might help and are available locally. i think they helped with my breastfed child (never tried gripe water). looks like they’ve changed their range since i used them but i think it was these [https://reuteri.shop-pro.jp/?pid=128566090](https://reuteri.shop-pro.jp/?pid=128566090) good luck!
Feed her in more of a sitting position? Some kids get reflux when in a lying position.
Look up the colic hold, it helps kids with gas.
I’m from the US, where gripe water is not recommended for babies, in part because some versions can contain alcohol and there’s little proof it does anything anyway. Some parents then prefer simethicone.
Honestly we used neither and just did a lot of “bicycling” of kid’s legs, which helped a lot.
ETA: you may also want to try different positions for bottle feeding, and not just different nipples, but different sizes for different flow rates. It took a while for us to find a combination that worked when kid was using bottles.
Is this possibly a baby sensitivity to the type of formula used? Like an allergy or sensitivity to one of the ingredients (dairy, soy, something like that)?
My daughter had gas issues a bit along with some constipation issues. We did some baby massages at home such as repositioning moving legs, and very light tummy rubs. Look online for some baby movement techniques, but recommend staying away from the baby chiropractic moves.
Do NOT force feed the baby unless you want even bigger problems. I say this as a parent whose child developed feeding aversion precisely due to forceful milk feeding habits on our part. If you insist on force feeding, you’re creating a vicious cycle because the baby will see the bottle and connect it with pressure to feed and see it as a negative event. Over time, the feeding will reduce no matter what you do. The worst case scenario? Your baby ends up having a feeding tube surgically attached and they will face massive issues to live normally or regulate their own intake of milk or food down the line because you are trying to force them to do something.
So ask yourself: do you want a tube-fed baby on your hands? It robs your life of normality. They will always have a tube sticking out one of their nostrils, and there’s a ton of maintenance that you don’t want.
In our case, the feeding aversion issue lasted 3 whole months and every day was misery. Only when we realised that 1) babies are fully capable of regulating their own intake of milk and 2) we were the ones at fault, did we finally get to the solution. We followed the programme laid out in the book Your Baby’s Bottle Feeding Aversion by Rowena Bennett. This book saved our baby’s life (and the parents; we were SO stressed).
Gripe water only helps a little if colic is the only issue. It’s clear to me now as a much more experienced parent that this is NOT your main issue. Force feeding is. Never, ever force feed your child unless you want to make things worse for yourself. They’re just like us; some days our appetite is a bit better, others days it’s not that robust so we eat a little less. Respect that a child even at 2 months of age can assert their will and you will get on the right path to solving your kid’s weight gain issue.
Also, this:
> Our baby weight is around 3.7kg , and at this time her weight should have been 4.2-4.5kg as per doc and clinics
Look, I get it. The healthcare pros say a kid should be at a certain weight and you feel they must know what’s right, but guess what? The baby didn’t get that memo. **Kids grow at their own rate and you stressing about it will actually make it worse.** If I could go back in time, I’d tell myself “ignore all the ‘guidelines’ of what weight a baby should be at” and I would’ve avoided the whole feeding aversion nightmare to begin with.
My kid is now ~2yo and he’s still underweight “according to the charts” LOL But guess what? That’s just genes because neither my husband nor I are particularly heavy and we have an incrediblyyyy active child who burns energy more than the average kid. More importantly, he’s way ahead of the curve on development charts (FWIW…) both physically and mentally (eg. crawling before 6mo, being able to differentiate 3-digit numbers/numbers in the hundred range at 20 months old, speaks 3 languages as that’s just our household environment). If they’re happy and healthy, what does it matter if their weight doesn’t fit “the guidelines”?
Do NOT march to the beat of those guidelines and they’re a common reason new parents end up with feeding issues.
I hope some of this gets through because a bottle feeding aversion is a real nightmare that gets worse by the day the longer you force the bottle on the child.
Also, your better bet is to check out baby-specific subs like r/beyondthebump and r/toddlers in the future. Good luck! I wish you the best.
I would have also a check for reflux too. I knew a baby with severe reflux. He needed a coating medication before drinking milk in an upright position.
Good luck
Iherb is your answer