I know it does sounds ridiculous, but hear out my case. By November this year, my boyfriend of 1 year and I plan to get legally married here in Japan. He’s with his brother in the same student visa status, but we both live together for almost a year.
I feel like we’re both gonna be judge in here brutally, hope you respond kindly as we are really trying our best figuring out how to survive here in Tokyo together especially on financial aspect as we are both independently supporting ourselves, him trying to balance all his education fees while doing part time jobs on side. But with his working hour limitation and the fees required of payment which around 800,000-1M yen on vocational course, having to pay almost 200-400,000 yen meanwhile for language school to sustain 3 months worth of visa, it’s impossible to do pay everything all at once.
So, we have come up with a plan to get married instead. Since I have always wanted to marry him anyway.
As for my case, my relatives are residents in here, most are half Japanese. When my mother legally separated with my biological father, she then remarried to a Japanese man and now I have 2 lovely half Japanese sibling. I’m under family registry of course, but my visa status is the same as my mother which is ‘long term resident’, now of 3 years. The only reason I came here is to finish all my medical surgeries, it’s major ones but not really life threatening and now I’m currently almost recovered with the last one. A year ago I thought I was gonna head straight back home to the Philippines and pursue my education again after the medical business is done. Hence the reason I just became a part timer/ freelancer living on my own, separated from my parents as soon as I turned 20, jumping city to city to experience different neighbourhood, taking all the jobs I could get to travel the country on every weekends —- and this is a problem.
I had taken the chance for granted to pursue a job that might be required on papers, evidence that in the future I can support a dependent. May that be a family members wanting to go here or a spouse. And the thing is, I’m trying to build an Art Career which is a very unconventional path to begin with. And as of marrying, we both are willing and very happy to marry each other. We just hope that through this way, we can both help each other financially if we both focus and dedicate on decent work. I know that our case might look very different and back wards, but we just want to be together.
Do you have any advice for us, anything we can do to have him under spouse of long term resident? I know there are no guarantee, if there are same case as ours’ out there, I would really love to hear some advice. I know we might also get brutally criticized in here but I have been independent financially since I was 19 and figured out how the system works here, on my very own.
I’m an Artist and I knew from the start that I won’t take the same conventional path as everyone, but if I needed to do a proper job and acquire an X amount enough to be able to support dependents, I’d do it, as eventually I needed it for future’s opportunities. I’m living on a wage of 130-200,00k a month combined all the work I could get from different type of gigs/ part time jobs.
I’m getting married at 23 here in Japan as a long term resident with an Uzbekistan guy (same age) (in a student visa living here in Tokyo with his brother in the same visa status)
Any objective takes on this? Please be kind on the comments, i’m just trying to figure out unfamiliar territory. I hope you’re not quick to judge us. Thank you.
by thylittlemiss
