50% of Japanese women think work hampers married life: survey

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1. Don’t worry, the western world will be along any minute now to tell them how to think.

2. Only 50%? Work kills married life/family life

3. And the other 50% aren’t married (edit: /s)

4. Strikes me as a rather vague survey. Massive sample size at 500 people to… /s

   The whole article could be summarised as “marriages work better when the husband is understanding of what the wife is doing.”

5. I knew this because Japanese people talk about this online. The majority of married women want to be housewives but men want their wives to work and contribute to the household. This might even be one of the reasons why many women don’t want to get married or have children.

6. Honestly, we need the original survey because the phrasing of the question and how they get translated in the english article can pretty much vary.

7. 「亭主元気で留守がいい」

   “Teishu Genki de Rusu ga Ii”

   [(1986) Japanese expression](https://www.jiyu.co.jp/singo/index.php?eid=00003).

   Many interpretations of the meaning and some interpret it ironically or in the reverse meaning, but the most commonly assumed meanings are:

   * “It is good to have a husband who is healthy and out of the house.”
   * “A happy wife has a husband who brings home a paycheque and stays out of her hair.”
   * “It’s best if the husband is healthy but usually out of the house.”

   [https://eikaiwa.dmm.com/uknow/questions/95547/](https://eikaiwa.dmm.com/uknow/questions/95547/)

8. The other 50% think marriage hampers work life

9. You can just take out “women” and “married”.

   Change 50% to 99%.

10. Well yeah… I mean families struggle here in the USA with a regular 40 hour week. I would imagine that couples in Japan would never see each other with their work schedule.

11. Duh…

12. If I was going to put myself through pregnancy and childbirth, there is absolutely NO WAY I would work a job on top of that. I’m not a slave.

    My husband would have to take the sole responsibility for earning in the household. In fact, I’d expect to be paid for risking my health and putting up with the pains and side effects of pregnancy.

13. I don’t think it’s so much the work aspect but that the husbands, who are also working, refuse to do any housework or cooking. In that case the woman has two jobs. Total scam for her.

14. Work hampers everything because it sucks.

    What aspect of your life would ***not*** be better if you had 100% passive income?

15. Controversial opinion:
    People always give Japan shit over stay at home moms, but they kinda carry the small shops and neighborhood shotengais.
    Wouldn’t wanna imagine the drop in overall life quality for kids and families if it became common in Japan for both partners in a married household to work full time.

16. This is the best tl;dr I could make, [original](https://japantoday.com/category/national/50-of-japanese-women-think-work-hampers-married-life-survey) reduced by 65%. (I’m a bot)
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    > Comments TOKYO. Around 50 percent of women think work gets in the way of married life, according to a survey of women registered with a Tokyo-based temporary staffing agency, highlighting the difficulties women face in trying to balance work and family in Japan.

    > The women who said they "Somewhat think" that work becomes a hindrance to marriage accounted for 37.7 percent, with an additional 10.9 percent saying they "Strongly feel so," the survey by b-style holdings Inc's research arm said.

    > Conversely, 32.8 percent of women responded that they "Do not really think" that work becomes a hindrance to marriage, and 14.6 percent said they "Do not think so at all.”

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17. I mean, if both husband and wife work and both help in the house it should be fine. The image of perfect wife came from the ideal put on us by 50s Tv shows, where the husband works and the wife stays at home. In this day and age that is not possible.

18. 50% of women are right

19. Unless your marriage is toxic. Work will always dampen married life. It is how it is. But for Japan being workaholics, I suppose they’d argue it is much worse