My wife came home crying because she said that the teacher is always angry and there’s a time she was asked “nihonggo wakaru?” While on driving lessons. She can speak basic japanese and can always understand if you tell her slowly. She doesn’t feel like coming back. Anything I can do to help her? She just started like 2 weeks ago.
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Find out how is the manager and complain.
I had the same issue when I was having lessons. There was one guy who was always friendly and asked if I was having any difficulty learning. I complained that I only had problem when one particular teacher was with me. He asked the name of the teacher, and after it, the teacher became so nice.
Turns out this guy who I talked with was the manager
Driving school teachers are always angry and strict since you drive a material that can kill yourself or other people. This is normal.
Your wife speaks basic Japanese, which means she doesn’t understand the Japanese vocabulary used while driving or complicated Japanese words in traffic rules/regulations/laws.
There’s no excuse for being treated rudely if she’s paying for expensive driving lessons. As has been mentioned, you should complain to the manager of the school.
You/she are/is a customer basically and entitled to a good service regardless of the mistakes
There’s no reason to be rude. It will only make the person learning more anxious and stressed about it. I don’t get those people..
Oh boy would I let that school have it! I hope you get someone who speaks Japanese (if you yourself can’t enough) to complain to that school. Sending hugs to your wife, I hope she powers through and doesn’t let one jerk ruin it entirely for her
A driving school is a business. Your wife is a paying customer, not a criminal who has been jailed for murder.
She’s entitled to good service and respect. Go talk to the owner/manager of the school. Ask for your money back if they don’t fix the issue with that guy.
When I attended a driving school in my city, all the instructors were nice and pleasant to talk with. Strict with traffic rules and regulations, of course, but never got angry or rude when I made mistakes or when it took me longer to be able to do what they told me to do. I even got acquainted with their shuttle bus drivers because they were so friendly and curious about me.
I feel bad for OP’s wife. Learning to drive itself is already nerve racking for some, let alone being yelled at and belittled at the same time. I encourage OP to talk to the manager of the school about this incident. I’ll also suggest the wife to find her own way to relax before starting her lessons, it could be detrimental to her progress if she’s too preoccupied in her mental block. I used to listen to music on my way to the pickup stop, on the shuttle bus, and while waiting for my turn to drive. Some prayers (or motivational affirmations if OP’s wife is irreligious) right before I sat behind the wheel also helped.
I went to one of those 合宿免許 places in Hamamatsu a few years back. 95% of the drivers were proper assholes and the dormitory manager was super racist.
I just thought to myself it was only 17 days and once I got my license, I’d never have to see these pricks ever again. I paid all at once so the thought of them failing me on purpose had me worried about blowing up on em
There’s usually a system to remove a teacher from your pool of possible teachers – ask someone at the reception to help you with that
I did that with about 3 teachers at my driving school 😵
One who physically pushed me to look out the window when he claimed I wasn’t looking enough
Another who would shout so much and so loud even though I’m driving on real roads. Do you want me to crash and kill us both? 😂
And the last one who just spoke down at me in an annoying condescending way. By this point I was just enjoying removing teachers from the list though lol
By the way almost every new teacher I had would ask at the beginning of the lesson if I understand Japanese. I’ll assume your case is less harmless though
My Japanese level is really low.
My experience with getting my license through the DMV was miserable.
My experience with getting my motorcycle license in a school has been fine for the most part.
I have an older instructor, a guy named Deguchi who has treated me with nothing but respect since he first taught me. He knows I have one specific problem, and he knows I was pushed to do other things instead of addressing the problem. It was through conversations with him that I got a better picture for the position:
Often it’s the institution, the system which weighs the person down.
Alot of instructors don’t get to teach the way they want to teach. Alot of driving hours are just course drilling.
Schools flood with people that they rotate through for lessons first come first serve, and the lesson hours are so short that they’re over by the time you’ve drilled something a handful of times.
I’ve re-contextualized how jaded certain instructors who rub me the wrong way must feel about their position.
It’s not an excuse, It’s perspective. If you have a jaded teacher, try to keep your head up and if it is too much, request a different teacher. Keep it impersonal. You’re entitled to what you pay for, but I promise no one is out to get your wife and it will not affect her pass/fail.