People living next door are quarreling.

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1. I get that you have good intentions, but if there are no signs of violence, I think they should be left alone and let them sort it out by themselves. They could jusy be going through a rough time, and having the neighbors meddling in it would just worsen things

   Unless it happens too often, then I’d record it for some days and contact the police with evidence

2. Apartment walls are thin here so sounds from neighbors come in loud and clear. If loud arguing happens again, it is better to go through the landlord who will issue a warning via letter(though they probably would know who is complaining lol). If you hear loud sounds like something violent is going on, it is fine to call the police.

3. Police…that’s literally all they are good for in japan. Not like they have murders to solve or anything…give them something to do, file a complaint and tell them you hear a woman crying hysterically and that it may be abuse

4. I contacted the police about my neighbor’s suspected abuse. She used to cry at night, too. They did a wellness check and the woman seemed annoyed with me when she found out I was the reason they came (the man never knew it was me afaik). I felt like I’d overreacted. Months later, things violently escalated in the street and were witnessed by several neighbors on the block, some of whom called the police. Now she lives alone in the same apartment; I don’t know whether the guy was arrested and/or they split up, etc, but I like to think that the police already having a wellness check on record helped her case when she truly needed them months later.

5. You say that suddenly you head a woman crying loudly at night. You don’t say you heard an argument, or anything violent, just suddenly heard a woman crying and decided to stick your nose in someone else’s business at night. For all you know, she could have just received bad news, perhaps a death in the family, or something similar. You don’t know, and it’s none of your business. Even if there was a loud, audible argument, it’s still none of your business. If there were signs/sounds of violence or abuse, call the police, but simply because you heard a woman crying loudly at night isn’t a reason to stick your nose in.

6. I smell Americans

7. You don’t know what someone’s going trough and unless they’re fighting loudly, stay out of it. I think I have had a melt down too, loud crying, this year, when my toddler decided to paint the living room walls with shit and I knew I had to cancel my very much needed night out to literally clean up shit when I was already burnt out and exhausted. Thankfully my neighbors just left me alone, if you would have come to my door, I would have told you to stop making things worse.

8. Well, you can do what you like.

   Example: My friends had a heated argument, and the police were called. They verified that nobody was being injured and left. Annoying, but no harm done.

   Example 2: I called the police last week because I haven’t seen my next door neighbors (who are like 95) in a few weeks, and the water meter reader person recently rang my doorbell and asked me if they were around – because there had been no water use at all in about 2 months.

   I worried they might be inside getting “ripe”, but the police checked and found out they were staying with their daughter for the past few months. Again, maybe annoying for the daughter, but no harm done.

   On the one hand, people are allowed to argue, and you don’t have to call the police. And.. nothing is a bigger insult than being called a nosy person in Japan. On the other hand, if you really, truly think that physical abuse is going on, then I would call. You’re not going to get into trouble for calling, except maybe your neighbors hating you.