hello,
so, lately my friend has convinced me to try a dating app and she heavily recommended bumble (as two of my friends met their current boyfriends on there)
now I started making my profile, but I am already struggling with the pictures, so I was wondering if anyone here has tips on how to use the app effectively?
by that I mean, how do you filter out the good people? it seems a lot of people I meet just want to hook up, which is something I am really not interested in, so I would rather have a way to either let them know I don’t want that or to find out easily if that’s all they want from me.
I have never really used a dating app properly, so I would appreciate literally any kind of tip! I have no idea what I signed up for, so please help a girl out
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Almost everyone on there is fuckboys so just swipe on who you find attractive cause you need to start talking to find the “good” people.
I like the fuck boys haha
Just state it in your profile that’s not what you’re looking for and that will help with removing some of the guys from swiping on your profile. The other aren’t going to read it or care. Just have to meet and talk to them and see how they are and what their intentions are.
The hardest part is actually filtering out the tourists. I don’t want to sound mean, but it’s honestly so exhausting, swiping across hundreds of profiles to find someone interesting who actually has a bio, matching with them, only to find out they’re staying for a couple of days.
As a girl who is looking for something serious, you will have a very hard time 🙁 Good luck swiping through thousands of sex tourists.
Hinge is for people who are more serious.
Also yes… the guys there just want to hook up.
Well the ones girls are interested in.
Lower your standards for a guy who wants to take you seriously or just…. go out in the world and meet people naturally.
If you know Japanese go pairs. Bumbl full of gaijin hunters
Male POV : I enjoyed the apps much more when I started using them as a supplement to real life rather than pinning my hopes on them. They did my head in when I was really focused on them, they get tiring.
I met my husband on bumble. His picture was blurry, and I almost swiped left on him. But I decided to read his profile and it was very detailed and sounded genuine, so I swiped right. Luckily he wasn’t blurry in real life.
My advice for meeting good quality men is to ignore pictures for the most part, and swipe completely based on profile content.
Be prepared to be doing a ton of rejecting.
The number of guys who can’t even be bothered to fill in basic information so you can evaluate them is ridiculous.
It’s super annoying that the “tourist mode” flag is all the way at the bottom.
Coffee & Bagel is a much better experience, I think, especially since the borders fully re-opened.
A lot of my friends met their husbands on bumble too, at first they weren’t looking for anything too serious but met people who were consistent and put in the effort for them. Just read the bios, see who has similar interests and relationship goals as you, swipe and chat. There will be a lot of trash, ghosting, people who chat forever but never make plans to meet but that just saves you from wasting your time. Just have fun with it, meet people in situations you’re comfortable with, restaurants, cafes, public places etc. if they try push you to do anything you’re not comfortable with or try get you to meet in a dodgy area or place then dont meet or end the date and go home asap. I guess the main thing is to just go on a bunch of dates and figure out what you liked and what you didnt like about them. If you click with someone you can see how it goes. Just have fun but stay safe.
I would say to add pictures that clearly show your face and at least one of full body, an one doing an activity. Write a profile about yourself, likes and dislikes and what you are looking for.
You will see most don’t even read your profile 🥲 Be prepared for a lot of rejecting and getting rejected, boring conversations and fuckboys. Lots of tourists, gaijin hunters and military guys too, so run away in the opposite direction.
You can find really good people but you will need to learn to differentiate. If you are not into ONS just stand your ground, because they will try their best to make you fold.
Anything “let’s see where it goes”, “let’s go with the flow”, “let’s have fun”… yeah looking for hookups
Tell them you want to go spend the day at a museum or art gallery.
Someone who’s looking to hook up won’t want to waste the day, and even if they do you’ll have plenty of time to observe them without them being able to easily suggest heading to their house. Someone interested in you, on the other hand, will be quite happy at the opportunity to get to know you.
My advice is to not use apps at all.