Hello everybody,
I just came back from a date with a Japanese girl. She was very friendly, also good looking, spoke perfect english and overall seemed “interested” in me. I was asking her about her job and besides some translation work she told me that she´s working at a girls bar (those kinds where young women talk to salary men for money), she was pretty open about it.
Question is: Is this normal in Japan, that girls, who work at those places also have a regular dating life, or is this a typical scheme to lure in customers? (she paid for herself btw lol). Should I see where this goes or should I stay away?
Happy to hear advise.
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I’m friends with someone who used to work at a girls bar, and acquaintances with some of her friends who still work in girls bars. Some people do.
I can’t say whether or not you should see where it goes, but I **can** say you should try to not paint all girls (or all Japanese, or all of *any* identity) with a broad stroke. Humans are individuals, it’s kinda dehumanizing not to treat them as such.
Just don’t go to the bar where she works? Don’t become a customer. Outside of work she is presumably a normal person. You just need to sure that her time with you is ‘outside work’.
I have went out with snack girls a couple of times … they just wanted to go out with someone, not necessarily someone to take back to their club .
depends on the situation … and the lady
sounds great.
just date her and see where it goes.
a friend did that for a year to save up enough cash to get to Europe.
She never ever dated any of the customers.
good luck
Awesome she’s so transparent about it. If there was something to hide she wouldn’t have told you.
Go for it. Or give me her number 🙂
I don’t necessarily think that is a scheme. I have been here a long time and dated alot before I got married and never ran into this. I did date a girl very, very briefly (like 2 dates) that worked at a place like that (briefly dating had nothing to do with her job).
IMHO you can give it a chance. If it feels like it is getting weird, then trust your instincts. It is a possibility. But she might just be looking for a date with a guy who isn’t a customer.